Fatherhood Worries

Becoming a father for the first time can be an unbelievable experience, but it can also be a time of great stress and worry for a new father.

You may begin to doubt your abilities as a father; you may ask yourself, "am I doing the best I can?, can I be a good father to my baby?" Family finances and health can always lead to stress and worry.

So here are a few typical factors that cause a father to worry, and how to deal with them.

General Father Worries
What are some of the worries that plague a new father?

• Your partner has become unavailable to you; either on an emotional, physical or sexual level.
• You feel that parenthood is not for you.
• You have few friends outside your family that you feel comfortable talking to about your problems.

Solutions
While you may believe you’re strong enough to handle your own worries, truth is that everyone needs an ear. Talk to your partner about your feelings and concerns; try and get involved in raising your baby as much as possible and ASAP. If you know other fathers, share your concerns and experiences. You’ll soon find out that fatherhood is only as good as you perceive it. Start looking at parenting in a different light, go ahead and have fun with your baby.

What Can Your Partner Do?
Listen up, partners. Talk to your husband about his feelings; listen and really recognize his point of view. You may find that letting him spend time alone with the baby, whether it be bathing, changing or just hanging out with the little one, will help get him into the routine. Make sure that you two are spending enough quality time together. Do the little things that make a difference, because it’ll help get your husband involved; when everyone’s on board, the ship is a lot easier to steer.

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