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Hi everyone,
I have an interesting situation. Ever since I became pregnant my boyfriend has to "one up" me. If I tell him I'm having bad back pains he'll tell me there is no way my back can hurt as much as his shoulder. If I have a headache, he has a worse headache. You get the picture. At first I thought this was sympathy pains and it was sweet. I coddled him, rubbed his shoulders, etc. But now, 7 months along, he's STILL doing it. If I try to ignore him he gets very mad and says that I don't care about him. If I coddle him it seems to encourage him to do it more. I have always been very independent but right now I could really use a little compassion. Even if I'm in complete pain he'll ignore it and ask me to rub his head because "It hurts so bad". Any ideas as to what is going on?
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Stop pandering to this guy. My boyfriend is doing the exact same thing. If I'm tired or sick he's tired of sick. If I'm in pain so is he. Please - NOTHING is going on with you boyfriend's body like it is with yours so tell him to shut up, butch up and get it together.
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Amayers1779, thank you for replying. It makes me feel better to know someone else is going through the same thing, even though I hate to hear it for your sake. How did we end up with such drama kings?
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Well, I think I know how I ended up with this big baby. Initially when I met him, I didn't think I'd ever have children, so the maternal part of me maybe was LOOKING for someone to baby and he fit the bill - at the time.
Now that I'm pregnant, I'm concentrating on babying myself and my future child and since my boyfriend isn't getting the same attention - he doesn't know how to deal with it. Also I recently found out that his mother babied him. I'll tell u this, my boyfriend is going to learn a thing or 2 over the next few months cause if he keeps it up, I'm moving on.
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Amen chica. Your man should be treating you better since now is the time you need to focus on yourself. Just think of how its going to be once the baby gets here, it will be like taking care of 2 babies! My man has done a little better lately, I've been having a terrible time with shortness of breath and when I went down the other day I think he realized that I can't do it all anymore. Maybe it was the wakeup call he needed (though I don't recommend it hehe)
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Tell that man to "suck it up b___tercup." My hubby treats me as compet_tion in most aspects of our lives. It gets annoying and then I need to remind him that I'm his "partner" not his advisary. He seems to get the picture when I start to ignore or mock his compet_tiveness. He likes to listen to cla__sic rock, not really my bag but it's ok, and when we're in the car he insists on playing cla__sic rock trivia. "Which group/band sings this?" I usually make up rediculous answers like "burt bacarach or barry manilow". He gets the hint after a while. He's also tried to "one up" me with ailments. But he is in the construction/home improvement field so I believe him when he says he's sore or tired. Guys don't seem to comprehend the level of discomfort that comes along with carrying THEIR child. The local news paper, yesterday, had an article of amusing ways to ensure that your husband/partner can share in your pregnancy ailments. Things like making him move furniture around all day under the a__sumption that you are preparing for the babies arrival and to simplify and streamline your life so he can experience the pregnancy back ache and then cook him dinner but make it extra spicy so he can experience the pregnancy heart burn. The article was mainly just written for a laugh and I enjoyed it. Remember one thing, your body is working harder at rest developing your baby, than his body is if he were rock climbing.
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yes he can have this problem. this are mental desease. kick him out or tell him he is a girl. present him a girl dress and makeups. wrap it up and give him infront of his mommy and ask him to open it. if mommy do not live nearby ask him to open it infront of his friend. he will get the idea.
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