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My husband and I have been having problems with our s_x life starting from when I was pregnant. After I had our son it got worse, and I said some things in anger like he was terrible in bed, and he made me have no desire for s_x anymore. He says that I made him feel so terrible that he doesn't have any desire for s_x with me anymore. What can I do to help him forgive me for the mean things I said to him, and help him have desire for me again??
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Hi bumblebee, I am not a man, but hopefully someone will answer your question soon. I just wanted to tell you that I've had a similar experience, and I learned no matter what, you should never EVER offend a man's s_xual prowess. They take it very seriously---sometimes to the point of not being able to get over it. The only thing that I can imagine it being like is like your husband telling you that you are fat and disgusting and he has lost all desire for you. At least, that's what my husband said it felt like. I recommend you apologize (which I am sure you did) and just start making it up to him everyday, little by little. Tell him he's handsome everyday. Tell him he's s_xy everyday. Etc. Kiss him often and keep doing things to make him feel loved and attractive. Just keep up the positive reinforcement and he'll come around soon.
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Thanks ginger6363 for your response. It is kind of hard for me right now to try to do some of those things for my husband , as he has said some mean things to me as well. But I guess I'm just supposed to get over it.
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How about getting counseling? If the two of you have had heated exchanges, you both have some apologizing to do, as well as some healing. If you don't effectively tend to the matter, it'll continue to crop up. You don't want this to fester, or it could turn into something super ugly and could mean a lot worse than what you're currently experiencing. To be blunt, the two of you, ESPECIALLY now, need to be grown up about the matter. It's not just for the sake of your marriage, but you have another life to consider now - your son. He's the only one who's allowed to be a baby in this matter.
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