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I wish my bf had the s_x drive i do.. its not all pregnent women.. trust me, if i could get it on a daily basis , i wouldnt complain.....Jen .btw..i am 8 weeks..

Harry Harry Harry. Truth is, your wife is tired and just not h__y. When i was pregnant i was tired and um......just not h__y? I would always wanna say no, but i respect that my man is a freak and so i gave him some anyway. Anyway once that baby comes you wont have much chance for s_x anyway, so your wife SHOULD be taking advantage!

This is a hot topic, whether a women is pregnant or not. So here is my opinion, let me give you a little background first: First of all I am 13 weeks preg., and I have a Masters level education, and a demanding job. I would never turn my husband down if he wanted s_x (unless I am sick or something). Its my job as his wife to provide this for him. Now many women will say "Oh but I am tired, or I dont feel like it." Well maybe he's to tired to go to work or just doesnt feel like it? But he goes, becouse its his responsiblity. My point is we cant help how we feel ( I really dont feel like having s_x) but we can control our actions (I may not feel like having s_x, but I will because my husband wants to.) I understand that limbidos can change for short periods of time, depending on stresses in life, the key word is "short period of time" It just upsets me how many married women I know that only have s_x with thier husbands around 4 times a year, because they just dont feel like it (They also dont feel like cooking or cleaning), its just sad and disrespectful towards him. Women pregnant or not we need to jump back in the saddle (no pun intended), and keep our men pleased! PS Bless your heart HezBux, your response is just to cute for words.

Uh first of all s_x with your husband is NOT a job. It is something that u enjoy doing together. If you look at if as a duty or a job how the hell do you get intamcy out of that...unless your a prost_tute..( not saying you are) .........just a thought to add to your wisdom........Jenn

I am not saying its a JOB, but not everytime you have s_x does it have to be a earth moving, heavenly event either. I cook everynight for my husband, sometimes I cook really special, time consuming suppers that a lot of love goes into. Other times I really dont feel like cooking, but he still has to eat, so I just cook something simple. (I used cooking as an example, because for most men s_x is just as important as food LOL) My point is that sometimes we need to put our partners needs above our own (he does this for me as well), its not a job its called love. My last post was just MY opinion, and was not meant to be taken for more then just my opinion, Jenn.

S_x has been better for me. My husband would probably say we do it a little bit less now but I do work and am wiped out most of the time when I get home. But when we do, it is great! And other things besides s_x has been better for both of us also.

I guess your palms not so harry anymore eh. hahaha.....

Im pregnant and am horney all the time, I just want it all the time and my boyfriend loves it.

I am 29 weeks pregnant and have been very s_xual and my husband is the complete opposit. I really go crazy sometimes. I dont know what to do?

i say just ask her or make a whole night dedicated to making her feel beautifull and clean...meaning being pregnate is not a comfortable thing and its actully grose our bodies are expanding and a number of other grose things just let her know that she is still beautifull and attractive, my husband and i dont do it everyday but once a week maybe he just knows to drop the hint, sweetly and innocently and i say give me 20 min then go and freshen up really quick. it might work it might not for you just a suggestion but its all about her personally and what she will respond to. good luck

Well we had the baby back on Feb. 4th. and we never did have s_x. I got to the point that I don't care anymore. She blamed the lack of s_x on the preg. but I've been very clear to her that when she is cleared by the dr that if things don't change then there is a larger problem and she just doesn't love me. S_x always has been a sticky subject for us. She used to be a stripper and was very s_xual in her past. Don't know why this all changed with me. And no this isn't her first kid it's number 2. Anyway I'm also getting clipped because I'll never go through this again.

Well Harry, I'd say congrats on your son but since you dont even mention him I guess I wont bother. Sounds like you dont even care about him - probably good thing you are getting snipped. If you have shrunk your world down to the s_x issue I am very sorry for you. Your wife had your son 16 days ago and you are already giving her the give me s_x or I am out of here ultimatum??!! I wouldn't want to sleep with you either.... have you taken the time to enjoy your child, to thank your wife for bringing him into the world, you have the least amount of empathy for what she has just went through to bring forth YOUR SON?? If you haven't maybe she just thinks the only reason you were with her was because of what she could provide you with s_xually. And by the way, my dh didn't get any the entire pregnancy, or any for the first 9 weeks after, but he didn't push, didn't demand, and sure the hell didn't make ultimatums - and now I am healthy and well, and we are back to enjoying a wonderful s_x life and I am filled with grat_tude at his selflessness and his love for me and his baby, and I reward him as often as I can. I doubt your wife is filled with anything but bitterness and fear that your leaving, and sadness that you dont appear to care at all for your SON. how sad for you, her, and your child.

One more thing... you wrote "we" had the baby. NO, SHE had the baby. You have a baby now, one that you should be around for to shelter, love, and protect. But I guess if she doesn't give it up in 4 weeks you wont bother with that and then SHE'LL raise and care for the baby.

kris A.: The t_tle of this is not my son, but rather a s_x poll. I don't have a problem with my son. Me having my son doesn't make me forget that I am a man with needs. My needs have not been met. I'm glad that you and your husband get a long so well and don't have a problem going without over a long period of time, but that ain't me. I'm a great father and take care of my son and family, but that has nothing to do with my s_x life. I love my son but I will not stay married to a person that is so disinterested in me and my needs. What’s funny is if you knew how hard I work for my wife and all that I have sacrificed for her comfort you might understand why I have such a problem getting told no when I never have said no to her. I’m a very s_xual creature. I’m not going to apologize for that. I’m not going to cheat and I’m not going let it hurt the ones that I love, but my wife knew when we got married that I very much held our love making and our s_xuality very high. There is a reason I married an ex-stripper. Either way I’m not going to attack you because I don’t agree with your lack of a s_x drive.

Buddy, you have to remember that you're on a forum full of pregnant women. First of all, I should hope the reason you married an ex-stripper is that you love her. Did you know that there is a minimum of six weeks that a woman usually needs to heal before she can have s_x and for MANY women it takes up to 6 months before they are comfortable enough. You say "if you knew how hard I work for my wife and all that I have sacrificed for her comfort you might understand". Honey, there is no harder job than taking care of a baby 24/7 especially a newborn that won't sleep during the night. And do you think pushing a baby out is fun or easy? It's HARD work and something you can't even begin to comprehend. After giving birth it's hard to even pee or poop let alone have s_x. I can understand your frustration with not having s_x dring the pregnancy, but b___hing about it less than a month after birth???? I have no sympathy for you and it's obvious you have no sympathy for her and what she's been through. You say you're a man with needs and a high s_x drive. To me you look like a h__y little boy who will throw a tantrum and leave if you don't get your way. You are ridiculous. A real man would be able to put his wife's feelings in higher regard than his own. I say she is better off without you, go marry a b__w up doll. Obviously the only tihng you care about is s_x and not how much work she put into carrying, having and taking care of your child.

You apparently only read half of my post, Harry... I dont have a low s_x drive, my hubby and I have s_x frequently and with pa__sion. It just didn't happen when I was pregnant or recovering, and had nothing to do with my love (or lack thereof) for my hubby. It had to do with fear of losing my child - at first it was justifiable as we had complications with the pregnancy, but after we had been given a clean bill of health I still wasn't comfortable risking the life of my baby - which is how I saw it, even though the docs said it was fine. Then I had to recover from the birth, and it is a recovery, you know... and a big step to resume s_xual relations. We are sore, we HURT "down there" - our bodies dont look right, or feel right, and it is scary. Your needs weren't met, but you weren't swollen and tired and overwhelmed and to add to the mix, you aren't now taking care of a little one full time while dealing with the demands of a man who is willing to leave you rather than giving his wife time to heal... You write that you are a great father who takes care of your son and family, but nothing about what you write backs that up.... a man who takes care of his family doesn't leave because she isn't giving it up less than three weeks after birth... and six weeks is the earliest, not the latest time to resume relations... it takes other women longer. You say you are attentive to your wife's comfort yet you consistently call her an ex-stripper - as if that means she should be some kind of super s_x charged vixen for the rest of her life. She's different now, you changed that... she's a mom and a wife and human... all I am saying is that throwing ultimatums at her doesn't show care or love or kindness or empathy - it shows "my way or the highway, you ex-stripper who wont take care of me!" And if you think you are caring for your son by doing that, you are really mistaken. Give her time to heal, I doubt it was ever an issue of not loving you, until your behaviour made it so... Try being kind. Try telling her you are sorry for being selfish and putting your needs ahead of hers, and tell her you are willing to wait until she is comfortable and ready... Isn't your marriage worth a few more weeks...? Your s_xual needs weren't met during your wife's pregnancy and immediately after birth, so you left. Is that what you are going to tell your family? What a lousy reason to walk out on your wife and newborn son, all the while professing to care for them.