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Wow. I've read through this whole thread, and I'm surprised at the strong responses on both sides. I think p___n is only an issue if the two parties in the relationship disagree. (Just like so many things in the relationship!) My husband looks at naked ladies online and I don't care. I don't like to look, but I read p___n, and he doesn't care. Really it turns us both on. We have a very healthy s_x life. We've been together about 8 years, and this has been the case the whole time. I'm sorry to all of you who have experiences with s_xual addiction -- that has got to be hard. But I think it's just like alcohol. When you can't hold down a job, it's definitely a problem. A beer or p___no on the weekends? lol not a big deal.
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Spamanda I completely agree with you. Reading turns me on and looking turns my husband on. As long as neither of us is b__wing off the other s_xually in favor of the p___n I don't see what the problem is....
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aahhhh hahahahaha. watch p___n together. its fun sometimes.
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I think its normal. My boyfriend and I watch p___n together all the time. We turn each other on yes, but it's just fun watching I guess. It's hard to explain it.
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i personally dislike p___n only because i find it degrading to women. i understand that the women are grown and have a choice, but i still have a hard time believing that it's a choice that they are proud of. my husband does have magazines and he does watch p___n online sometimes and i don't mind. i'm not a prude or anything, i just feel bad for those girls, ya know? maybe i'm not making any sense here, but i thought i'd just add my 2 cents.
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I've honestly viewed this particular topic from different angles as I've grown and become more experienced with men. I know in my younger years, my main aim with men was to be a s_x object and felt this was some real power to have to be appreciated only for my physical a__sets. I found p___n to be erotic and daring and saw nothing wrong with it. Now that I've been through a very destructive, dysfunctional relationship with a man who had a sick p___n addiction and also now that I have two daughters, I view things VERY differently. I suppose if you're comfortable with your man ogling other women sucking men off and diddling one another, then more power to ya. If, however it troubles you or makes you feel badly, you're definitely not the one with the problem, HE IS. There are many men out there who don't find it necessary to view p___nography as a regular part of their s_x life. Having said that, not everything is so black and white.. .. If your man just occasionally enjoys a tasteful nude magazine or likes bikini babe calendars, I would (IMHO) consider that healthy male hormones. If he is watching something that you find disturbing or not comfortable with, particularly persistantly and behind your back, that is not a healthy intimate relationship. This is ESPECIALLY true if he shows less interest in you s_xually or asks you to do things that border on fetishes. I'm only speaking from experience and no I'm not bitter about any of it. My current DH is a great man with normal s_xual appet_tes and I don't worry for a minute about this sort of thing. But my last long term relationship was a nightmare after which I had to seek counseling due to his screwy s_xual dysfunctions. Just my experience.
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i have issues with a man hiding p___n from their patrner, it makes it more sleezy, like hes jerking off to it behind my back and THAT makes the situtation unconfortable for me! AND p___n is ok, but i hate the men who DL for hours and constantly have there head in a magazine, or dvd.... get over it, obviously if your guys head is stuck in p___n more than you then ya got yaself a real problem.....no man will never look at naked women, they cant help it, its the male makeup lol
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It really depends on his maturity level. if he is immature then NO if he can be mature about it then yeh i guess its ok. It also depends on if he is in a reltionship or not
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My hubby and I used to watch it together but over time we got bored with it and would spend more time laughing or ssaying eeeeww look at her b___bs. Some of the women get them to big and they look like stretched out trashbags so we'd say, gross she's trashbaggin'. Now we don't watch it at all. We were into it for a while. I think we had 40 movies, but we gave them to a friend of his. My hubby wanted to pick 5 to keep for incase we wanted to watch one once in a while, but so far we haven't. We have not watched any in over 2 years and in the last 2 years I have gotten pregnant 2 times. I have a 12 month old and am due anytime with the third little one. We also have a 5 year old. We love each other and don't need the p___n, but it was fun for a while. I know my husband looks at good looking women when he's out, with me or not. He also knows that if he EVER acts on any fantasy with someone else, our marriage would be over. I have been cheated on in past relationships, and it is NOT an easy thing to get over and it can make you less trusting for future relationships. I think I may always have a fear of my hubby cheating on me, not because of him, but past experience.
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PS I also look at the good looking men, so I don't feel threatened by his looking. They are going to look, so are we.
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I dont think any man should watch p___n when he has a girlfriend or wife . i really disagree with it when they have a pregnate girlfiriend or wife at home...women feel insecure when they are pregnate..what better why to make them feel better by them catching you getting of to some skinny air brushed girl on T.V...
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Hell I like p___n more than my husband does. It's an individual thing. S_xuality is not something that we learn persee. That it...none of us can help or change the things that turn us on. If p___n is it...fine by me.
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My husband and i watch p___n, TOGETHER, we both dont watch it alone, or "check" out other ppl, or go to strip bars or anything. If we like something we see in the movie, we may act it out, it spices things up, if keeps us happy. We however always watch together..
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I think it should be permissable especially when a woman is pregnant. I don't mind my dh looking, in fact I welcome it! It keeps him off me for awhile! lol
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ABSOLUTELY OK. I do not feel threatened by p___n I know my man loves me. (And he couldn't get with a p___n star anyways! lol)
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I know this is an old post but don't agree with p___n and I would feel offended if my husband looked at it, not because I feel jealous or intimidated but just because I can't believe a man or woman could degrade themselves so much that they get naked on camera and have s_x or do whatever...but my husband feels the same way as well...all say is, if you don't like it find someone who doesn't like it. If you do, find someone who does. Porn can ruin a family and if you don't like it all you can do is look for someone who shares your beliefs
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