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I am sorry to hear that the father of your baby is leaving to go overseas. I too, have someone that is in the military...But he is staying in the states ( thank God) Best thing you can do is stay strong. There isnt much else you can do. How long will he be gone...it cant be for more than a year correct? Just stay strong, get help from family members if possible. I really hope the best for you and your father to be.

Unfortunatley, military wives and girlfriends deliver babies alone all the time for these reasons. My husband is air force and may be gone when i deliver too, hang in there and surround yourself with people you love and just try to stay strong. I'm sorry to say thats all you can do. Good luck sweetie

MARIE, I AM IN THE MILITARY AND I HAVE A MILITARY BOYFRIEND THAT I AM PREGNANT WITH AND HE IS LEAVING TO SPAIN AND I AM STAYING IN CUBA. I UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU ARE GOING THOUGH JUST YOU GOT TO KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. REMEMBER THE FATHER ALWAYS HAS LEAVE DAYS THAT HE CAN TAKE TO COME SEE YOU. ALSO IF YOU ARE MARRIED YOU CAN REQUEST TO GO OVERSEAS WITH HIM AND JUST LIVE THERE FOR THE TIME THAT HE IS THERE. IF HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND YOU CAN ALSO GO VISIT HIM WHEN THE MONEY IS THERE. THERE IS MANY THINGS YOU CAN TRY TO WORK OUT. TO HELP YOU ABOUT THE PHONE BILL HAVE HIM USE A DSN PHONE IF YOU HAVE A BASE CLOSE TO YOUR HOUSE THEY SHOULD HAVE TO PAY FOR THE BASES TO TRANSFER THE CALL FOR HIM. ALSO THE BEST THING A SOILDER/ SAILOR / FLYER CAN HAVE IS TO COME HOME TO SOMEONE WHO IS THERE AND NEVER GAVE UP ON HIM. AND NOW TO COME HOME TO HIS LITTLE GIRL OR BOY. BELIEVE ME IT WILL BE HARD ESPECIALLY AT THE BEGINNING OR WHEN TIMES GET TOUGH BEING ALONE BUT THAT'S WHAT FRIENDS ARE FOR. ALSO THE TELEPHONE. NOW ADAYS YOU CAN PROBABLY GET GOOD DEALS ON CALLING OVERSEAS FOR THE STATES UNLIKE ME CALLING A ISLAND OVERSEAS TO A EUROPE OVERSEAS. JUST KEEP YOUR HEAD UP.

I'm in the Army, as is my hubby; he may or may not deploy to Afghanistan in the next few months - it's between him and 1 other guy in his section. I'm due in August - hubby may or may not be here. It sucks, but you cope - it's part and parcel of loving someone in the military.

Marie, I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and my husband left to Iraq when I was 6 weeks along. There isn't anything you can do except keep yourself healthy and safe for your baby. It is very difficult but that baby is more important. Good Luck!!

My husband just returned from Iraq and now we want to have a baby before he has to go again in a year and a half. I've thought a lot about how I could keep him involved in our baby's life. He has a digital camera that can make movies. While he was gone this last time he would compile the movies on his laptop and then burn them onto a cd and send them to me in the mail. I think it would be a good idea if/when he gets deployed again for him to make movies for our baby - just him talking and perhaps I'll send him some children's books and he can read those on the movie. Just so our baby can still hear his voice and see what he looks like. Also I've told him that before he leaves he has to get me a digital video recorder so I can make movies of the baby and send those movies over to him. That way our child and my husband will still be able to know each other in someway. And my husband won't miss out on important milestones like learning to crawl, walk, talk, etc. Good luck to all you military wives!!! I hope the best for all of your husbands.

Video tape your husband reading books. And every day play the video and have you and your baby read along with daddy. S/he will be familiar with his voice and when he returns he can read to her while you take a break. They'll bond quickly too. I'm due in late June and my husband will be deploying to Iraq in a few months. I also recorded him talking and when he goes to the field for weeks at a time I play the tape recorder close to my belly and she thinks he's really there. You're not alone! And you will get by this! See if the Army Community Service has any programs. Where I'm at they have a good support group for moms and kids.

My husband is getting ready to leave for Iraq too, and will not be around for the birth of our first child. He also won't be around during the pregnancy or the time following with our new baby. I do not have a lot of family and friends that can help. I can't think of a scarier time in my life. I would do anything to keep him here. Being a military wife is the hardest job in the world.

Go to your bases family support center. Since you don't have family or friends nearby, go there as they have many many programs that can help you deal with the separation, the up coming pregnancy and many other things to keep you emotionally together while he's away. Take it from me, although being a military wife is one of the hardest things to be, it is also the best thing I can think of.

im in the air force. And so is my husband, We arent even stationed at the same base. Im just afraid that when the baby is here we will either get deployed at the same time and have to send the baby away to my mom or as soon as he gets back Ill have to leave...thats no way to have a family. But sadly to say, thats something you deal with in the military. Seperation. Thats why the divorce rate is so high. But just keep in touch. Show each other that there is a good trust foundation and send lots of pictures. You'll be fine. Its gonna suck but you'll be alright

omg i am feeling so sorry for you gals. video tape is the best thing if you miss him soo much you can see them. i know it is not the same but.. i feel so sorry.

Honey the only thing I can say is that you have to suck it up. It stinks I know. My husband has been deployed for most of my pregnancy and probably isn't going to make it back in time for the birth of our twins. We don't get to talk to each other much and the base we are living at is in England, 4000 miles away from my closest family. I'm not going to lie, it's really hard, and sometimes I feel like I just can't deal with the c___p anymore, but it's just something that you deal with day by day. We stay sane by sending each other lots of pictures, my hubby made a video of him reading a childs book that I play so our babies can hear his voice too, and I send him video of my belly jumping around when our boys kick a lot. The best thing you can do is keep yourself happy and busy and healthy...it will be easier on both of you if you can avoid worrying him anymore than possible too lol! You can make it tho...it's the price we pay for loving someone in the military and in the end it is worth it.

sorry, there's not much that you CAN do. The army doesn't care if there is a child on the way. It's the last thing on their mind. You need to find a support chain and find someone that will be able to help you and be there with you for the delivery. Good luck. I know its tough, as I have had a child whily by hubby was deployed. It's not fun. But there's really no use stressing over it as there is really nothing you can do about it. hugs.