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Well if my husband ever stopped looking at women I would start to worry to tell you the truth. It is a natural thing whether they are naked or not. I have never made an issue if my hubby looked at p___n. That is probably the reason that it does not happen all that much. He might have a p___n mag in his work truck here and there and we use to watch videos. But it seems that it really is not that big of a deal to him anymore. Boobs are b___bs and a__s is a__s. I guess I am just secure with our marriage. We have been married for 7 years and only knew eachother for 2 weeks when we got married. We are very open and honest with eachother and tell eachother everything. We live in Nevada and he had to work in this 1 horse town for about 2 months. Well the only bar around was a brothel. Of course girls were all dancing and all of that but he told me and I did not care. I know he would not do anything else. By the way how old is he? My hubby is 35 and I think he just grew out of the whole p___n fantasy thing.

He is 37, and for all I know he may look at it less now then he did before. I know it is just the one website, and I dont care-but yet part of me feels strange about it, maybe becouse he wont talk about it. If he just opened up and said this is what I do, and this is why, but he WILL NOT TALK ABOUT it. Like I said before I think he is shy about that type of stuff, or maybe doesnt want to open a can of worms with me or wants to keep that stuff private. Is it normal that he looks at it everyday (15-20 minutes)?

Okay..here's the shocker! He's getting off on the p___n site, gasp! What else would he be doing? He's a man...they do that! I'm guessing that he doesn't want to talk about it because there is nothing to talk about. He likes looking at naked women having s_x and gets off on it. No big surprise. If it's such a mystery to you, maybe the both of you could grab a few beers (well, not if your pregnant) and watch it together..who knows what could happen ;-)

Maybe he is embara__sed about it. Dont press him to talk about it. That will make him feel even more weird with the whole thing. Dont worry about it though. It is harmless. Some men are just facinated with women.

Hi, I don't think it is a problem for you to be bothered by p___n. It does not make you insecure to not want your husband look at other women naked, no matter what reason he chooses to give or not give. If he can't tell you then you can be sure it is a reason that would hurt your feelings. Would you think the only problem was your insecurity if your husband went to strip clubs? I'm not trying to strir things up, I just want you to know that you have a right to feel that you are the center of your husband's desires. If his looking at p___n bothers you he should not do it in secret or openly. There are many other things he can do to entertain himself. And those other things might help your relationship instead of making you have questions.

to kr: I'm sorry but I completely disagree. If the p___n was interfering with their s_x life, well then that would be cause for concern. However, it is perfectly normal for people to have fantasies. Men are very visual creatures. As long as he's just looking, who cares?

I have told him I thought it was ok, and maybe we should watch it together, but he is really not into that. I would not want him to go to strip clubs, and would not be ok with that, but a few dirty pictures-I can deal with my feelings. But hi, this is what I want to understand, you said men are very visual creatures..this is what I want help understanding.. the difference between when I look at a dirty picture and when he does, is is s_xual? just visual? something to do like looking at cars? hes not getting enough in bed? I am not condeming it just trying seperate my insecurities- from the truth of whats going on in his head. Is normal its everyday? And why wont he include me? I more open then he is about that type of stuff. Is this a Modonna vs whore syndrome?

Clueless, This seems like it is bothering you. I think women want to please their husbands and be accepting of p___n, but it seems like this is not going to cut it with your husband. If it were working for you to just be accepting, then he would be more open and willing to share. Some people will say that p___n is harmless,but I think something that causes this much confusion in a relationship it can't be called harmless. Something is not going right in your relationship. Fantasies are normal, but they are best when shared with a spouse. B honest with him and make sure he knows that this secrecy in your relationship is a problem. When problems like this are just pushed under the rug they tend to creep up later. You have a olot of questions and insecurities around this topic. If he is going to bring these things up by watching p___n, than he needs to be able to answer to them.

It only bothers me once in awhile, maybe every 8 months or so, I start to wonder why? It seems to bother me more when I am feel really down on myself, if things are fine with me, it doesnt bother me. Which leads me to believe, its an insecurity on my part. He knows I am ok with it (I visit the same website, the women are not very attractive), but I wonder if deep inside if hes not ok with it, and thats why he doesnt feel comfortable talking about it. When I bring it up hes like a little kid in trouble-then he clams up and doesnt want to talk about it. Maybe this is just a dirty little secret, I just need to let him have.

Hi Clueless! I'm not a man but do think it is a s_xual thing. I'm not sure if everyday is 'normal' or not, I guess it would depend on your husbands s_xual appet_te. Is your s_x life normal and satisfying, otherwise? (If you don't mind my asking). The fact that he doesn't want to share this experience with you is a little wierd, but maybe he is just insecure about masturbation. You know your husband best...do you think that this is normal for him?

should i be worried then as my hubby doesnt look at other women or p___n, i have never mentioned it, he just doesnt, i know he feels p___n is disgusting, not ALL men are the same, not all have to look, not all have to get turned on by the same thing, some need p___n some dont some like jessica simpson some dont, ( crazy i know) i dont look at other men either, i just.. cant, dont find them attractive, i think i am just so content with who i have. tell you hubby how you feel, and then maybe he will tell you why he does it,

to teigan, I'm happy to hear that you and your husband only have eyes for each other. Either you're in complete denial or only been married a month! Anyway, you and your husbands s_xual desires (or lack there of) are not the subject of this post. Also, if you had actually read clueless' post, she stated she has already tried to talk to her husband and he doesn't want to discuss it. His lack of discussion on the subject is what troubles her, not his use of p___n.

Well the only thing that disturbs me is who often he looks at it. I think everyday is a little much, but thats just me. Review your s_x life, I'm sure you two have one but how crazy does it get in the bedroom how spicy and spontaneous is the love making if you just make rutine love it might not be satisfiying either one of you to the fullest. If your not really enjoying it he can tell and vise versa. Usually in p___n they do different things such as toys. If you don't have a d____o get one there fun when both parties are willing to not act uncomfortable. Try getting a p___n at the video store instead of both of you sitting at a tiny computer trying to get into it. If hes uncomfortble with it don't try to discuss it to much it may make him feel worst. If theres a side of him that he needs to unleash, it will be harder for him if he feels like the spotlight is on him. Hopefully something I said helped. Good luck

The stuff he looks at is not really videos, they are just pictures, like one women may send in 3-4 photos of her self, she may be a 45 year old women with just her shirt off, or a 24 year old women doing more. When I say everyday, its like 10-15 minutes a day (maybe), or maybe 30 minutes on a day on a day off work. I know my husband and I really dont think he masterbating with it everyday, I can see him doing that maybe once every week or two. He has had problems with a low s_x drive in the past, which is now much better, so maybe he is using to help increase his s_x drive and thats why he doesnt want to discuss it? Who knows, our relationship is fine, he is very loving and sweet, and a great provider. He is always hugging and kissing me, and would never turn me down if I wanted s_x (unless he was VERY tired.), I guess I was just trying to understand the drive behind it (I am researcher in real life this is what I do) I guess if I can figure a mans brains out, I will become very rich.,

We are men, we like to look.

TO HI.... jealousy is a horrible thing, me and my partner have been together nearly 6 years, very happily married, i dont need to look at other men, as i am more than happy with what i have got, and visa versa, the reason why i answered this post is because women are saying all men look at p___n, all men have to be eyeing up women ever 5 minutes otherwise there not normal, its natural.. WHAT ALOAD OF SXXT, all men are different, and i get sick of people tarring them all with the same brush, i know some women who are slags, does that mean we all are... so read MY post properly too, so many people are jealous of how close we arw, its not denial, its called happy and content. men who look at p___n and dont want there women involved..... id be seriously worried, its not right, sharing it together alot of people think its healthy for the relationship, but on your own... creepy.