Feeling Overly Anxious And Tearful Since Birth Of Baby
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Is it just me, or does everyone feel overwhelmed by their feelings for their baby? I find myself worrying about the slightest little thing. Can't sleep because I'm worried about SIDS and have to keep checking that she's breathing, not too hot or cold etc. I feel inadequate if I can't comfort her quickly enough. I even find myself worrying about her future, when I'm not around to protect her. Things like, "what if she has a really c__p boyfriend who breaks her heart?" etc. I just love her so much and am so afraid of losing her or any harm coming to her that it makes me cry. It's like every time I realise how happy I am, I end up crying because I realise how much I have to lose if things go wrong! It's ridiculous, but I can't seem to help it. Is this normal?
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oh my gosh, I am the exact same way! everything you mentioned, i worry about the same things...i'm scared to death i'm gonna lose my daughter to SIDS, i sleep with my hand in her ba__sinet on her chest so that i can feel her breathe, and i know in my head that it can happen up to a year old, and she's only 4 weeks old now, so i cannot imagine this feeling of worry continuing for a whole year! i also worry about things like boyfriends, her first day of school, the whole vaccinations and autism thing that i'm sure you've read on here, I'm worried about if she's gonna get sick, if she's gonna get hurt...everything. I'm not sure if it's normal ti worry about all this stuff, but I can't help it!
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 | :) - September 29 |
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It's is perfectly normal to have all the feelings you are having .Be happy for every second you have your wonderful baby girl .Don't be overwhelmed with the feeling that you must be worried about the "what ifs" . Enjoy her ! Being a mother is a wonderful gift . Congratulations to you and your baby. You are not alone in your maternal instinct ! Good Luck Lissi !
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Someone sent me a card that said, " Taking the decision to have a child is like taking the decision to have your heart walking around outside your body." It's SO true!
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 | CEM - September 30 |
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Lissi, i think what you're going through is totally normal after the birth of a baby. your hormones are out of whack and trying to readjust, as well as being overwhelmed by the intensity of love you have for this little defenseless being! however, if it continues for too long or doesn't seem to ease up, you might want to see someone just so it doesn't get out of hand. i know how you feel 100%. my oldest is going to be 5 soon and i still worry about him. he's in daycare and all day long i wonder if he's having fun (even though i know deep down he is), if the other kids are being nice to him, etc...so it doesn't ever really end! once a mom, always a mom ;-) my mom lives far away from me, and still calls twice a week to see if i'm well! just try to enjoy your little girl (who's absolutely adorable by the way) and try not to pay so much attention to those negative thoughts, they'll disappear eventually.
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Thanks CEM. I think I might have to see someone about it, because it's so bad, I'm afraid to take her out of the house and I know it's not good for either of us to be stuck inside all day long. There's been so many stories of mothers being attacked while out with their babies, that I'm afraid I won't be able to protect her. I'm fine when my husband's home. Only last month, there was a story in our local paper about a teenage boy who tried to take a baby from her stroller. He puunch the mother and when he couldn't get the baby's restraints unfastened, he punch the baby in the stomach twice! I know these things are rare, but I can't help worrying about it when I'm out with her. You're right, I should relax and enjoy her. I hope I get over this soon! Thanks for the complement by the way. I think she's adorable too. :)
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That should have said punched, both times. My brain doesn't function at all anymore!
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Lissi there is nothing more normal than that. Fortunately now she's little and you CAN protect her! I have similar thoughts, that she'll bring home some gang member and if I beat him up she'll hate me and become a stripper to get me back.... ah parenthood!
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| CEM - September 30 |
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i'd be scared to take my baby out of the house too, Lissi, after the story you told. that is just sickening! i don't know how anyone could do a thing like that. that's as low as it gets, as far as i'm concerned. old people, babies, and animals are just off-limits as far as i'm concerned. it probably would be a good idea for you to talk to someone about what you're experiencing, though, if it is interfering with your life in a serious way. even though it is scary, the chances of it happening to you are probably quite slim.
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Very normal, I think almost all mothers/fathers go through this with a small child. Feeling the need to protect your child is a part of being a parent. Being tearful and anxious will pa__s with the pregnancy hormones. Take care
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