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Your mom is right, don't worry about hurting others feelings. And you will be suprised, most people are very understanding when you tell them that you need time to recover and be together as a family before you fill your house with visitors. Just tell your friends and extended family that you would like a couple days (or whatever you need) before anyone comes to visit. Screen your calls and hang a sign on your front door, if needed, that reads something like "Please do not disturb, Mother and baby need their rest." I didn't let anyone come visit us for a while after my daughter was born, and everyone was really understanding. Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you!

Most people are pretty understanding when you ask them to wait. You could always ask them to call first to make sure you're up to it and then decide if it's ok for right then. You could always make an excuse... didn't sleep, baby's fussy, tired, sore... the list can go on. Make sure you take care of yourself and the baby first. Good luck!

I too am 39 weeks. At first I wasn't going to call anyone until the kid is born. I dont see a point in people wasting their time sitting around the hospital waiting room. Just waiting for the baby to be born. Wouldnt people prefer to go on with their lives and not wait on me or baby. However, now that I am 39 weeks my mom seems to think she needs to be called when I go into Labor. Fine we can call her, but when it comes delivery time she will not be in the room. I say hey I don't need any more people in there to deliver then absolutely necessary. My hubby will do just fine. My doctor and the nurses will be fine as well. And I can also agree that you don't want a bunch of visitors in the beginning. I have been telling people already that just because I am home with baby doesnt mean I am accepting company, this way it doesn't come as a surprise when that time comes.

I am having the same problem only exept for its my uncles girlfriend...she wants to be in the room while im in labor...i just simply told her no....just tell them how you feel you wont sound like a b___h you are gonna be extremely tired afterwards anyways

I was 17 when I had my first baby and I was running into the same problem. I told my friends they would be a better help to me and the baby, if they came over when I got home from the hospital. And if they really want to help, tell them to make a meal for you when they come over. If they were anything like my friends, it was pretty much the first meal they ever made. Good luck in telling them...

Make a schedule and have 1-2 friends come over at a time to help you out. They can do things like wash laundry, do dishes, cook, and clean. Then they can play with the baby long enough to let you shower and nap and what not. If they don't like your choices then they're not your friends. That's what I say.

I know how you feel. Although I don't have a lot of "rowdy" friends or anything I would like to come home from the hospital and spend some time with just me, my hubby and the baby. I don't want a house full of people there when we come home and I let my hubby know that already!

I don't think you're being selfish at all. I know that when I deliver I don't mind if a few people come to the hosp for a quick visit but that's it.Personally my mother is about the only one that I would want around right after we get home because she will be there to help and she's grandma. Also I don't want people in an out spreading germs throughout my house.So I will just tell everyone that I will see you in a couple of weeks after I get my rest.

I told people that for the first 2-3 weeks I do not really want company. Close family & super close friends (like the god-parents & our best friends ONLY) are allowed short...emphasis on SHORT...visits. other than that they have to wait until we adjust and the baby adjusts and we have some sort of half arsed routine going. Everyone understood as much as they wanna see our little one they got it. BTW congrats to you and your hubby!