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I would definitely make sure you get some books on labor, and if at all possible take a cla__s. Asking the doctor questions always helps, but I have found that they often don't spend as much time explaining things as I would like. I am nervous about labor too, as I am pregnant with my first, but it has helped a lot to research and read-up on my options for labor and delivery. Even if I panic when the times comes, educating myself helps alleviate the anxiety I am having right now :) Sorry I don't have any great tips, as I haven't delivered yet, but I wish you the best of luck!

Are there pregnancy cla__ses offered in your area? I would go to one if I was you, these are often given by midwives and they will usually show a video of birth and talk about the things that will happen.

Take a cla__s and read some books, like the other girls suggested. I think every woman is scared the first time around. I know I am and I am almost 38 weeks. It goes quite fast. Good luck sweetie!

Thank you all, I will definitly look into some books. Also I will talk to my caseworker about finding me some labor cla__ses.

My advice for you is to try and not worry about it. I know that is so much easier said than done. But just try not to think about it as this painful event thats coming up. You never know, you could be one of the lucky ones that gets your epidural in time (if thats what you choose to do of course) and dont feel a thing! It's something that has to happen so try to not think about it and worry yourself sick. When the time comes, youll just go with the flow and do what you need to do to get your baby out. And when you do, it is THE MOST amazing feeling in the world i promise you. Definitely read up on it and keep busy the last weeks before your little one arrives. Keeping busy will make time go quicker and hopefully keep your mind off the bad stuff! Good luck to you, it really is an amazing experience :)

every labor is different. I just had my ds 6 weeks ago and I too was terrified of labor because of what every woman says. But my labor and delivery was beautiful. It was 9 hours long with 45 min. of pushing. All the way up to 8 cm I had VERY mild contractions. The dr. couldn't believe I got to 8 with barely any pain. Then I got the epidural b/c I knew he was a big baby (9lbs 3oz.) and had a feeling I would tear. I felt the contractions in my back when pushing but nothing bad at all. It was a great labor and delivery and I can't wait to have another baby. Every woman is different. Don't worry about it. Once your baby is out, it's the most amazing thing ever! No matter how good or bad the labor, nothing matters once you hear that baby cry!

i was 16 when i had my first really age dosent matter because it hurts no matter how old u are. books are probably good but no two labor's are the same so u never can really tell what to expect. but weather u like it or not im affraid the babys gotta come out some time lol best thing to do is just be strong when its all over an u got ure baby u will forget about all the pain. good luck !

Hi baby.luft.. I just finished my OB rotation and what you are feeling is soooo normal. I have a suggestion for you if you get an epidural, the BEST managed births I a__sisted with were with this one MD who believes in "laboring down", this meant that if the baby was looking good on the fetal monitor, if mom was doing well and had good pain relief he did NOT have them push just because they got to 10 cm. What he did was keep the lights dim in the room, had a quiet atmosphere and allowed the woman's body to move the baby down after full dilation. Sure he could have had the moms push at 10, but instead he took the extra 1/2 to 1 hour and had them start pushing right before the babies crowned. What a DIFFERENCE THIS MADE! The moms weren't exhausted, pushed for less than 1/2 an hour, one had 2 st_tches, the others none, he didn't have to reef on their labia to lift them over the baby's head as often and the moms did fantastically. All the baby's had fantastic lung sounds and the fluid had been squeezed beautifully from their lungs. Their Apgars were top numbers. I can not tell you what a 180 difference this was compared to the more aggressive doctors. If I could have a v____al birth I would insist on my delivery being handled this way if baby and I were tolerating labor well. Best wishes!

Hunnie Bunch is right when she says every labor is different. Im sure you have heard alot of horror stories but i bet there is just as many of the opposite. Both of mine were extremely quick. Obviously it hurt because i didnt have time for any pain medication at all but it was so quick and i was holding them in no time at all. i cant wait to have another and i just had my second one september 15th!!!

Im sacred to im 30 weeks and i could go at anytime they tell me lol im so scared that it ios hard to eat and when i sleep i dream about having the baby, Everytime i feel him move i think hes coming out lol w\is this ridicuklous?

babii_boo91 - hun, yes, you could go "anytime", but you said you are only 30 weeks, if you went anytime now in 6 weeks most dr's would try and stop the labor. Don't worry, you still have a long ways to go :) xxxxx

Babyluft, I was pregnant with my first at 19 and while obviously nervous at the prospect of labor I handled it by educating myself and hearing of others' experiences. One book I had terrific fun reading was "The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy" by Vicki Iovine. I also watched "A Baby Story" religiously and when the time came, I felt at least more comfortable knowing that women do this every day. One more tip sweetie, if you can't have mom or another woman you're close to be with you during labor, ask the hospital if they have doulas on staff. My mom lived many states away and I had one of these wonderful women support me through a long and arduous labor and while difficult, it ended up being a beautiful and fulfilling experience. Good luck to you and don't worry yourself to pieces. Stay strong by thinking of the miracle you will soon be making.

I've had a c-section and a natural birth. (in that order) Look at it like it's only one day in your whole life and it will come to an end. It's a very powerful experience, and I think every mother has felt your fear. Even though it's totally natural to occur, it just doesn't seem that way when it's your body! And it's so different for every woman.. You'll do great, I'm sure!

As for who I am going to have in the room with me...I really want the dad, but he doesn't want my dad to meet him till I turn eighteen. Even though he can't go to jail for getting me pregnant. He doesn't know that my dad knows that he is the father, and that I am still with him. My dad is fine with this all! But because of my mom trying to put him in jail he is really paranoid about meeting my dad. I don't talk to my mom at all, and I am not really close to the fathers mother. I am so confused!!

If things are pretty messy between your parents and with this whole situation (which it sounds like, sorry.....!!!!) then I'd suggest asking a very close female friend or an older cousin or someone like that to be with you during the delivery. Support is SO important. I had both my mom and my husband there for the whole thing, and I think that is a huge part of why I had a fairly easy labor and was able to do it without any drugs. If you don't have any friends you want to ask (and I can understand that) ask your doctor how to get in contact with nursing students who need to watch a certain number of births. I know the colleges around here require that of some nursing students. There might be someone with some knowledge who'd be able to be with you during your labor. This could be less stressful than dealing with your parents, the baby's dad, and everyone else. Good luck to you!