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nobody told me that the pain of pa__sing a stool would be almost worst than the actual birth. Seriously could've used that epidural again! (tmi?!?)

Hmm...well, no one told me that they push on your stomach SO hard to check your uterus after you have the baby... that really hurt. yeah the going to the bathroom part was really scary..they didn't give you stool softners? They gave them to me and it wasn't bad.

they did give me some. Any suggestions to avoid the same in the future. hey kennas mom, was this to a__sist with the placenta coming out??

I pretty much knew everything important about being in labor, but I wasn't prepared for the exhaustion and busy busy life once the baby comes home! And oh, the pain of engorgement!!!

I wish I'd have known that my baby was over 9 lbs. No, seriously, I wish I would have known that you can get the shakes and vomiting for a couple hours after delivery... but I think that was more related to the fact that I had a hard 24 hour labor that ended in an emergency c-section. Of course, there was no way to foresee that, but I soooo wish I could have. I'd have just scheduled a c-section!!

shamof3-wow. that sounds like an intense labour experience. I guess the lesson is nothing is foreseeable. sophia--yeah, I agree! I thought once labour is over the worst is behind--you know how you just want them out that last month--but ah man, when they come you almost want them back in! Another thing I remember is the pain of healing up down there. No one told me things would be so ouchy!

Yeah, smilefull... I definitely got a lesson in "going with the flow" from that labor... I'm usually a planner and like everything to be just so- hehe;) It turns out that I have scarring of the cervix (from a D&C) and can't dilate, so that's what the problem was (found out about it at my 20 week u/s with baby #2). I had my 2nd and 3rd by scheduled c-section. AND, that lesson in going with the flow came in handy with my third baby's birth, because I went in for my c-section and they said my platelets were too low and it was too dangerous to do a spinal, so I had to be under General Anesthesia for his birth- and dh couldn't be in there at all! That was disappointing, but my doctor later filled me in on everything that happened during his birth.

I wish I knew about the stiches, my son was 13 days over due and weighed 9lbs 9 1/2oz, although the doc gave me an episiotomy I also tore extramly bad he was stiching me up for an hour and I didn't get to hold my son till he was finished, then I ended up with an infection because he used the wrong kind of stiches, the after part for me was way worse then having my contractions 2 mins apart for 12 hours, but my son was totally worth it and it is true after it is done and over with and your looking at your baby labor really doesn't seem so bad.

sham-"going with the flow" is such a parent mantra. lol. I just have noticed how I've applied that to raising my son and how much easier it is than trying to MAKE them do something they're not ready to do. it's funny how much stuff you learn about yourself and life during the whole pregnancy/labour process. Do you think it was "easier" in a way to be out for the whole process..I can understand it would be emotionally hard cause you don't get to experience it, but to go to sleep and wake up with a baby sounds....well, to be honest, pretty good compared to the alternative.?? Am I just ignorent? selkirk--sorry to hear about the terribly tearing, and st_tches, and infection. Just to have an infection makes you feel awful nevermind the actual pain and discomfort of the tearing and st_tches.

Smilefull...no that's not ignorant. It was kind of a relief. My 2nd baby was born by scheduled c-section with a spinal. Overall it went smoothly... the spinal was a breeze, the section itself was good, st_tching up- no problem. But, I remember I kept getting really nauseas and was afraid I'd throw up and cause my doctor to "mess up". And, they kept giving me an oxygen mask, which made me feel claustrophobic. Not severely so, but enough to be uncomfortable. Also, it took forever, because, I later found out, my daughter looked up and took a breath when my doc made the incision- BUT turned around breech and had to be pulled out by her legs. She got fluid in her lungs, so her little stunt landed her in NICU for a few days. Anyway, I was nervous during it, because I knew it hadn't taken THAT long with my oldest to get the baby out, but I didn't want to ask what was going on down there and break her concentration. So........I'll get to my point- being put to sleep was soo easy, except that when I woke up I had no pain meds and was too groggy to wake up enough to ask for them. It was like that for about an hour. Finally I came to enough to be able to get some meds. That, plus the fact that I didn't wake up for over 2 hurs after my baby was born, were the only two bad things about it. Overall, it was an easy way to have a baby, because even with waking up in pain, I was in WAY more pain and for much longer with my labor with the first baby. Mselkirk.... YOWWW... I've had three c-sections and still think I'd take those st_tches over an episiotomy any day... the st_tches are in a better location with a c-section IMO...