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Hi Nancy! I can see that you must be anxious to have AF arrive after 6 weeks post D & C. Do you know if you ovulated at all this past month? The average time it takes for AF to arrive after a D & C is 4-6 weeks but I have heard of it taking longer. With my last D & C, it took me 29 days (an average cycle length) for AF to arrive. However I think I fell back into the swing of things quickly because the baby died so early. If I were you, I would speak to your dr. once you get into your 7th week. A few reasons I can think of off the top of my head on why it is taking you so long is A) Your body needs longer to recuperate and kick back into gear B) Although VERY doubtful, some tissue could be left over from the last pregnancy thus not allowing you to menstruate or C) you could be pregnant again (as you know that is what happended to me after the first D & C). Could C be a possibility at all? Please keep me posted on your progress....

Elaine - A HUGE CONGRATS to you!! That is fantastic news about your pregnancy. It is great that you returned to share your story with others who where in the same boat. A great taste of hopefulness! Although I might be overly optimistic, I think just about everyone will have a similar story to share in the near future! :-)

Elaine....Thanks for sharing your story of hope. You give us ladies hope when you share a wonderful story like yours. Well A/F decided to rear her ugly head today so I have an ultrasound scheduled for Tuesday to start the IUI procedure all over again. Wish me luck! ,,,,Nancy, it's nice to hear you are 39 because I am 38 and really nervous that my husband and I will never bring home a baby.

i did altsound at er on a friday they heard heart beat then that thuesday i did another one and they could not find my baby heart beat i was 8week and 3 day at er one i was so upset then come find out the heart beat at er was low they didn't bother telling me i don't know what to do or anything i do is cry i go for another altsound thurday i want it be wrong more then andthing it so hard gonig though thisi still get morning sickness so it harder it very hard but i read on here to try help me but it still hard

bratgirl - I am so sorry that you are going through this, try to stay in the moment, and in this moment you have heard your babies heatbeat. They will know for sure on Thursday, which probably seems like a lifetime to wait. You will be in my prayers - please keep us posted on how you are doing and talk to people who are of comfort to you. Take care.

Nancy --Did AF ever arrive for you? Have you began to TTC again?

HI Cristina!! - Yes, it showed up - FINALLY - yesterday. I didn't think it would ever come and I was getting nervous, but here it is. We are hopeful to get pregnant again, but aren't going to obsess about it. How about you? How was your trip? Are you back now? Are you pregnant? (couldn't help that last question!!)

nancy- thank you it was nice hear something from someone that know what i am gonig throw well i'll keep you update what i found out thursday hoping it wrong but not getting my hope up

Hi Nancy! Great news that AF arrived at last. You will find that your body will get back into the swing of things faster now that the first cycle is over with. As for me, since I had two m/c in a row, my dr. said I should take a panel of tests (something like the thrombolytic panel- I aways forget the correct name) that will determine if there is any issue such a blood clotting which could have caused the multiple miscarriages. It takes 3 weeks to get all the tests back and since I am on schedule to ovulate in a few days, I will need to wait until next cycle to begin trying again. I am hopeful and optimistic. Now that some time has gone by since the m/c, I feel a little more relaxed about getting pregnant and not as obsessed as before. I think that is going to help me get pregnant actually. So next month is the plan.... Hopefully I will be able to come back and share some good news... We shall see. Please keep me posted on your update as well!

Nancy -- Forgot to answer your other questions... Yes, I am back in town. Got back last week from being gone for 5 weeks. Vacation was great and well needed after my prior traumas with loosing the babies. I needed to get away which was quite medicinal. Thanks for asking! Hope all is well with you. How is your little boy?

I thought I was 8 weeks pregnant and I went in for a v____al us to see how far along I was. They only could see the yolksack no embryo. The tech told me that I was probably about 6 1/2 weeks instead but scheduled me for another us in a week. The second time she said there was no change and still couldnt see an embryo. She had me talk to the Dr on call and he suggested a d&c or to take the pills to miscarry. I dont believe him. I am going to wait it out and see what happens. This forum has given me hope. I feel fine I dont have any signs of a miscarriage no cramping or bleeding my b___sts are still tender and everything seems normal. Does anyone have any suggestions? He didnt suggest another us or to test my hormones I want them to do bloodwork as well as another us. Please let me know if anyone has any suggestions for me. I dont want to have false hope. Thanks.

Littlemadonna, I am so sorry that you are going through this awful time of uncertainty. I had a similar experience but unfortunately had a bad outcome. After the first u/s on 1/4/06 at 9 weeks, I went back 2 weeks later and they found no change so I ended up having a d&c. During the 2 week wait, I was hopeful, but I also prepared myself for the fact that might miscarry. I hope and pray that your baby is healthy and I wish you all the best.

littlemadonna, I had the exact same situation happen to me. The first u/s at 8 weeks showed no yolk sac and no feta pole, so they asked me to wait 1 more week so at 9 weeks there was no change. I was not spotting, I didn't have cramps but here was no mistake, it was a blighted ovum. And yes I had sore b___sts the entire time but I did not have nausea. I did however get my blood tested every 2 days to check if my HCG levels were doubling and while they were going up they were not doubling. I am now 8.5 weeks pregnant. I had an ultrasound at 6 weeks and 3 days and there was a distinct heartbeat and fetal pole found this time around. I had another u/s at 8 weeks and 3 days and I could see the head and tail and a very strong heartbeat. You should be able to see a small heartbeat at 8 weeks. I tried to convince myself the first time around that eventually they would find something but if the doctors said it was empty, it most likely is. I had a v____al ultrasound too... so there was no mistake. I hate to say this but I think you have a blighted ovum... but make your doctor take blood tests for your HCG levels. The chances are low but maybe the fetal pole is hiding... that's what I was hoping the first time. I don't want to give you false hope. Now that I'm pregnant again, I didn't wait for 1 cycle, I now know what is normal to see on an u/s. I think you should expect the worst and hope for the best. I don't mean to be a downer but it's a reality you have to face if your doctors are telling you there's nothing in there. I think it's better to move on and try again than to hold on to false hope. I hope you're not upset with me for writing this but I just want you to accept reality... it's hard when this baby is all that you want. I was there too. But you can get pregnant again and the next time you have an 80% change of it working out. Good luck.

Littlemadonna - The doctor works for you, you pay them. If you do not feel comfortable with what they are telling you and would like to request additional tests they should be happy to do whatever they can to make zero mistakes in your diagnosis. Yes, there are many stories of women who didn't show changes during the early us or heartbeats and then all of a sudden there was one and went on to carrying a healthy baby. I hope that will be what happens to you. If it is not that way, please do not feel alone, we will be here for you if you need us. Please let us know what happens and do not be affraid to get a second opinion if that is what you need to do. Take good care of yourself.

Hi Cristina! Glad you are back and that you had what sounds like a wonderful vacation - and a much needed one too! You sure have gone through quite a lot of emotional stuff in such a short time. It is nice to hear you share how today you are not as "obsessed" to become pregnant! I think I am getting to that place....slowly, but getting there I hope. My sweet little boy told me today that "you are a good mama (he calls me mama, not mommy) but sometimes you are not a good mama" and I said "WHAT! - WHY?" He said "because sometimes your face is not happy and I don't like it" - So, I think that said, along with your post about being less obsessed has shed some light on my life. I really need to remember how grateful I am for what I have and really feel that before I could ever be ready to welcoming another baby. Hope it will be soon, but if not my goal is to make sure that my son has a "good mama" whose face is loving when he looks at it - he is now 3 and will be going to preschool in Sept., which is only about 7 months away and that time flys so fast. Did you do the test panel yet and are now waiting for the results? That would be nice if they could tell what has happened and now fix it. Please let me know!!

I haven't written in awhile, so I wanted to chime in! LittleMadonna, I'm so sorry to hear about what you are going through... the wait is always the hardest and we'll keep you in our thoughts. Elaine, I thoughts your words were very well put. There are so many things that we want to hold on to - but you do have to think about what is happening! Christina and Nancy - HI! Nancy, you just made my heart melt with your comment about your little boy! So sweet! My little girl does the same when I am upset with her... she'll say, "Mommy, I want you to be my best friend!" - she's funny! I'm glad you two are doing well.