2 Miscarriages Now Pregnant Again And Waiting To See
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In the last year I have had 2 miscarriages (11 wks and 8 wks) and am now 8.5 wks pregnant again. Up until about 3 days ago I was having good pregnacny symptoms, which although not nice were at least reassuring (in 2nd preg/miscarriage I did not get a single symptom) that the pregnacny was strong at work. Now I am worried that this pregnacny has stopped developing. I could probably go for an early preg scan (due to previous miscarriages) but I'm not sure that will help really, as if I am going to miscarry, I'd rather do it at home (I regretted having the operation for 1st miscarriage - it was much better being at home, as for the 2nd one).
So, I am just waiting to see how things go. No bleeding thank god, but in my experience, it takes a long time (weeks) for the pregnancy materials to come out after the pregnancy has failed, so I just have to wait and see.
I feel sad that I feel nervous about this pregnancy. I feel sad to have lost 2 already and to go through the physical and emotional trauma of it. Ultimately though, I believe that I will eventually have a healthy and successful pregnancy and baby. I have a beautiful 7 year old son.
Would like to hear from other mums with similar experiences.
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I have only lost one (confirmed-I suspect I lost another but got a positive and then got period-years ago-no pain that time) and It's been about 24 hours since the last of (hopefully) the spotting stopped.
I woke up from a nap on Dec 27th and was bloody. I went in for an ultrasound on the 28th and the baby had stopped developing (heart stopped) at about 7-8 weeks. I was in my 9th week of pregnancy. I opted out of the D&C so that I could go home and have the miscarriage there.
It's been about 3 weeks now and I have finally stopped bleeding. I haven't had any pain in several days. My problem now is deciding if I want to ttc again. It's been tough and i am not sure that I could do it a second time.
How did you handle your second miscarriage? I am still quite emotional about my first.
I am hoping that you are doing just fine and that this one works out for you. You are in my thoughts geeminor. Are you feeling any better?
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Thanks Pearl. Nice to hear from you and so soon. Maybe it's not the time for you to be thinking about getting pregnant again just now, when you have only just (hopefully) stopped bleeding from your miscarriage. Apparently it is very rare to have more than one unexplained miscarriage (you are statistically much more like to have a successful pregnancy than not)and I see from your picture you have a beautiful healthy child.
For me, I guess I want another child enough to suffer a little. It's not a nice thing for the body to go through (I fainted last time, but other than that it was pretty much painless - just like regular period cramps) and of course emotionally it is draining. Strangely though, I feel less like a freak than I thought I would (I felt like a freak after the first mis). I have accepted that this is what has happened and may happen again. I now several people who have had multiple failed attempts at conceiving or carrying through a pregnancy and so I know I am not alone.
After my first one, I got together with a friend, who had just lost her baby at 20 weeks and we had a good cry together and talked about all the things that were bothering us. It was very cathartic and we can talk to each other now, as things are happening. It made us much closer friends.
I hope that in time, you find some peace and support also and wishing you all the best for future attempts if you decide to go ahead in the future.
take care
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