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If you feel your mom will b__w up if asked, you can be sure there is a hidden story. Could your "sister" actually be your cousin who was taken in by your mom when her own mom abandoned her, or even your niece taken in when grandma had a late-in-life pregnancy?

I have no idea what my mom's response would be, and it's the fact that I don't know what the response would be that scares me. I don't know whether it would be awkward, or quiet, or calm, or loud, or anything. As for the other things, as I said, I'm sure that we both came from my mother. She and I have the same features - green eyes and black hair. The hair would be from my mother - we're of Japanese descent - while the eyes are my father's, who was American. At the time my sister and I were born, my grandma would have been very, very old, and none of my uncles or aunts ever had children.

Twins have been born two months apart, the first prematurely. Four months apart, the first would not have survived. Could your father have had a baby by another Japanese woman that your mother took in? Could that baby be you? You can choose to keep your counsel on this, or ask your mom straight up - she has probably been waiting for the day you figured out there was some explaining to be done. Good luck!

i would love to know if you ever got your answer KirasagiZ!

I read this thread over and saw one flaw with the twins theory that Grandpa Viv mentioned. She could have had one three months before her due date, and the other a month late. It seems far fetched and it is, but anything is possible.

there has been a few cases where women have been pregnant and have ovulated and gotten pregnant again while still preg with the first!

Delayed twins can and has happened, but it's not common. And it used to be very common for one of the twins to not survive. A double uterus can exist, but it's even less common, I think. The only thing that will explain this is getting the story from your mom. I'm a mom. I'd want to be honest with my adult children and although she might go through all sorts of emotions while telling the story, she will feel better after she's purged it, even if it's not a nice story. What really baffles me is that NO ONE has ever asked before? No friends have ever found out your birthdates in the presence of you mother and blurted out the obvious question? Teachers? Doctors? Neightbors? That is almost more strange than the dates themselves. When you learned that babies take 9 months to gestate, you never asked her anything? You have a right to know and so does your sister; your mom should know that, and it sounds like you really love her--and she should know that too. But if you want to try to find out without asking your mom, get your birth certificates (everyone should have their certs. and pa__sports anyhow), and do some research with vital statistics, hospitals, any relatives, old friends, your doctor(s). I do think you need to ask your mother, though. The story you get without her could be wrong. And if there is ANY way you and your sister have a different parent, you need to know for your medical histories anyhow. If she gets upset, just keep rea__suring her you love her but that you need to know the truth no matter what. THAT is the truth. I can't believe NO ONE asked and no one ever got an answer. (I don't mean that I don't believe you, I mean that it is very strange that no one has.) I, too, would love to know at least if you found out. You don't have to tell us, but even if you'd like to tell us you got to the bottom of ir, you don't have to say what the story is. But I'm keeping my fingers crossed that you get the true explanation. I have friends who found out they were adopted--when they were 28 and 31! Even then it was by accident--their parents were not planning on telling them anytime soon! They were BOTH adopted from different birth parents! They are 1/2 Aboriginal (Tzeachten) and 1/2 Caucasian. They have their ADOPTIVE mom's thick, wavy blonde hair and blue eyes and their ADOPTIVE dad's Aboriginal nose, skin color, and even smile. They look like their dad, but he's not the biological father of either of them. And they look more like brothers than my brother and I do! Good luck! :)

Um, this thread is 10 month old!

Um, you read it yesterday, and I didn't see anything else on delayed twins around here other than this story that didn't really have an ending, and knowing the ending might've helped end my search on this topic. I didn't realize there was a human gestational limit on the thread response time on here. But thank you so much for whatever that was.

Yes, but generally if someone hasn't finished the story in about a month, they are not likely to come back and update us. So I'm not sure how it will help you. Yes, posts on forums in general have a lifespan of days and weeks, not months.