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Okay I am 22 years old, august 3rd will make 7 years my husband and I have been together August 4th will make 1 year of marriage for us.We have two beautiful boys Dante (turned 3 years march 8th) and Zaiden (10 1/2 months will be 1 year september 2nd). Both my husband and I are work construction in Las Vegas, Nevada. We are plumber pipefitters. I know it sounds like a icky job, but really its awsome! We get to be part of building all the casinos on the strip which is cool to tell people who arent from Vegas. As for my backround...I was born in vegas when I was about 2 we moved to Buena park california, Stayed there til I was 7yrs old. My father ended up in prison for steeling millions of dollars of computer equiptment from the company he was working for. Which meant my older sister, little bother mother and I had to Move to Vegas to live with my grandfather for finacial support. My father got out about 2 years later, He as well moved to vegas were we have stayed since. my father got arrested for a DUI about 6 months after his return and then got shipped back to cali for unsinished buisness I guess you would call it. my father never returned, by choice, and only had contact with him once since then and that was about 2 years ago. My mother is crazy pulled me out of school in the fifth grade after i got expelled forbeating up a boy and breaking his nose for calling my friend fat. I never returned to school. my mother was verbally and very physically abuseive. When I was 15 and she found out I was dateing my now husband, she started beating me on our coffee table until I passed out, when I woke she was kicking me on the floor telling me to stop pretending. I got up with the clothes on my back and left the house and have been on my own since. My mother and I still talk and have a distant, but pretend close relationship. I got my GED when I was 16 and I am in college now. I am a very sarcastic and outgoing person. I dont hate ANYONE in life but dont like everyone either. My role model is my mother, because I have used her and still do as a description of exactly what I DONT want to be like as a person and a mother. I love life and all the challenges it comes with. everyday I feel like a stronger person. My kids and my husband are my world and life. I became pregnant for the first time 2months before my 18th b-day, I had a miscarriage and went completely insane, started drinking heavily, abuseing pills and pot, Dh and I even split and I moved in with a friend. 2 weeks after I moved out I found out I was pregnant (Dante was concieve with a condom), I havent touched a drug since then. After Dante was born, about a year and a half later we decided to have another, after a second miscarriage (the 2nd one was easier, because i saw it comming) we ended up pregnant with zaiden. Now 10 months later we just went through a chemical pregnancy (unplanned pregnancy) It had been a horrible past few weeks, but we are okay and getting better. No plans anytime soon for another though. I have endometriosis and I am in pain 95% of the time, but I am a optimistic person, and love and deal with all of it because it is a part of life. My husband and I are very lucky financial wise, we have double income and double benifits, and make way more then most 22 and 23 year olds gat to see in their life. I am proud of everything we have because we have earned everything we have with no help from others.Life is great and our next step is buying a house. we are repairing our credit right now, so we can stop renting and finally own a home...Okay I will stop rambling now, i talk too much also if you havent noticed............and I have a MAJOR phobia of CLOWNS!!...lol...okay not funny seriously clowns are bad!
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Man, parents suck :P Thanks for sharing, good luck buying your house, and happy early anniversary :)
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yea OUR parents suck but we dont =)...thanks for the goodluck on the house buying, well need it, we have a long road ahead of us. my credit got all messed up when I was 18-19, I had TONS of medical bills and thought I was being reesponsible by putting them on my credit card, instead my credit card went to collections and now it looks like we went on a shopping spree on my credit report. We just got inrolled and accepted into a credit program that settles all our debt and puts it into one payment every month, he said he could probably settle most of our debt to half. I am excited because we are finally getting this ball rolling and we can actually afford to do something about it now.
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Medical bills? Do you mind if I ask for what?
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Well. I have always had ton of little medical problems. I have HORIBLE stomach problems that sometimes cause me a few night stays in the hospital, I have random problems with my blood pressure, I am anemic, lactos intolerant, now I have endometriosis....There is just a ton of little things that have caused little medical bills here and there, emergency room visits left and right...Not as many emergency visits now days, but up until I was about 20 I was in and out of the hospital several times a year....My biggest medical exspence, has been my migranes. My migranes use to be so bad when I was going through puberty that I would have seizure from them, that made for a abulance bill and a emergency room bill. from july 2002-january 2003 I racked up over 80,000 dollars on medical bills. Luckily I dont have to pay those, but I almost did....I just have a lot of little problems that dont sound like much but they all add up to be one big pain in the a__s.
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Oh and I never mind ANY questions being asked. I am a very open person with EVERYTHING. It comes with growing up around secrets, liars, and manipulators...turns out I want NOTHING to do with any of that, and the best way is to have a VERY open personality =)
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Oh wow! That must be hard for you :( Are you at least receiving any help like from an insurance company?
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I'm like that too :) I don't mind answering anything. A lot of people tell me how shocked they are about how open I am, even with people I really don't know haha.
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Lol I get alot of "i didnt need to know that" comments. I think it is funny how so much honestly and being open can make people blush and get all shy
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Haha yeah, I don't know. My psychologist, whom I fired because she's dumb, told me I'm "too open" and that I might make people uncomfortable because I don't hold back. I responded, well their loss. I'm perfectly comfortable with my life and who I am and feel no need to hold back ^_^
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Hahaha this is hilarious mine told me the same thing when I was 15 and I never went back to her after that!!
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fa sheezy mah neezy d__n db you wuz a hood rad *doesn't even try to hide the sarcasm*
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Therapists-they just don't understand people who want to live their lives like open books. LOL!! Its funny I had a therapist tell me I was too open when I was 15 too. Only thing is that I'm not as confident as you guys. I do worry about what people think of me and that's something I've been working on lately. I guess that's my "growing up" thing for now.
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That's so weird, I was 15 when she told me that too! I guess there's just something about being 15 that makes you an open book haha.
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all 3 of us were probably loud mouth teenagers, thats all...lol they had to think of a way to try to shut us up. I was fine when i started seing mine then she literally drove me crazy, and had me so doped up on medication, i was a zombie.
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Pretty much the same thing happened to me. I was depressed because of my family issues, I didn't have any friends, I was raped, I just felt like my life wasn't where it should be. So I sought out help and got worse and worse and worse. Finally I was like you guys suck at your jobs, so forget it. Then I was much happier. I think that when you a___lyze every little detail of your life like that, you're pretty much forced to go crazy. Its better to let things go and move on.
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Hell Amanda, I'm the opposite. I'm always a___lyzing every detail of EVERYTHING. So therapy helped. I went to therapy at 15 and was diagnosed with ptsd, a sleeping disorder, anxiety disorder, depression, etc. I got transferred to another therapist about a year later who p__sed me off beyond belief because he always said my problems stemmed from the fact that I'm a very angry person. I'm like wtf....I'm never angry. I'm way too nice to people. Years later I realize that he was right. I'm angry but i don't know how to express it in a healthy way. I internalize it and beat myself up or let it make me obsessed with perfecting everything. I don't know how to put the blame where it belongs. As for the drugs...I know the zombie feeling. They tried to put me on them in the beginning and I went along with it hoping it would be the fix-it but one day I found myself in bed half dead and suddenly I saw raindrops coming from my ceiling and my skin tingled and felt wet like water was hitting me. Let's just say I was done right then. Well actually I was done after I spent two hours checking to make sure the ceiling wasn't leaking. LOL!
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