About To Start Third Trimester Advice
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Ok, so I'm about to enter my third trimester and I've gained already a bit more weight than I I wanted, but I'm still a fairly smaller person. In my 5th month I gained 9 pounds inbetween my monthly dr visits and she said it was just retaining water. Anyways, I'm new to the area and don't have any friends down here yet and the only people I have around are my parents friends who thinks we're lying about my pregnancy because they all think I should be showing more (yeah, I stole the ultrasound pictures from some other woman to brag about an unexpected pregnancy, whatever). And I guess part of that is I am not a touchy person at all and haven't let anyone feel the baby kick other than my sister and fiance only because they wouldn't quit pestering me and acted like they're feelings were hurt. Even a friend that lives a bit aways who is pregnant, about a month behind me, looks more pregnant than I am and has for quite some time, so with all this talk from people and seeing myself in the mirror I feel just fat instead of pregnant. My appet_te is like it always has been my entire life and I don't have weird cravings. I feel very normal, except for the bantering assualts from my unborn baby. So, I guess this is as easy as pregnancy gets. I am starting to experience some paranoia about losing her this far along or falling, or something going wrong, or not being a good mother. Normal fears, I am guessing. So, I guess what I'm asking is for advice on how other women have dealt with these feelings and dealt with other annoying people that just can't keep their thoughts to themselves because I am sure I'm not the only one that elders and parents have tried to bully into doing things thier way. Any advice at all would actually be very helpful... I haven't been able to afford a birthing class or parenting class and since I'm wanting to have a natural birth I'm a little unsure as to what I'm supposed to do other than "hee hee hoo hoo." With barely 3 months left til the big show, I'm rather worried about my performance there. ANd no one I know ever br___tfed so I haven't got any advice there either from older mothers...and none of them offer valid advice on the labor part either.
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hello there- welcome to the third tri!
what can I say... we def hear alot of unwanted comments, receive WAY too much unwanted advice... but what can we say right? I know it is sometimes irritating, and depending on the day and your mood, you can either stomach it and walk away, or you really feel you are going to let the person have it! haha
that is all totally normal. For the most part, i try to just listen to what people say, and remind myself that they are just so excited, they feel they NEED to "help" with their advice, or try to remind myself that sometimes people just dont realize what they say and how they say it. i.e. especially people who havent been in this situation- one day they will realize it...i find most of the crazy comments come from friends or family that havent yet had kids... and most of the unwanted advice comes from friends or family that have had them and now feel like they have an MBA in parenthood. at the end of the day, you know who means well and who is just being cruel, and i would just distance myself from the cruel people...
i am like you in that i didnt gain much at all, and then bam - my 6th month i gained 8lbs in one month. Lol i am 35 weeks now, and i def look pregnant.... and looking pregnant def helps you FEEL pregnant, and be content with how your body is changing. so have some patience there, one day you will wake up and just see a huge change... we all go through the 'fellilng chubby' stage- def not a fun one!
I also dont have many side effects, and if it wasnt for the huge belly and kicking from within, i would prob forget myself. appet_te hasnt changed here either... so we are on the same page. although its hard, i try not to compare myself to other pregnant women i know or see... everyone is different... and you just cant pre-select how you want your pregnant self to look... just have to deal with what you get.
I didnt take any birth cla__ses either.. most of my friends/fam said it wasnt the greatest help, kinda a waste, as when it comes down to it, you will most likely forget alot of it anyway!
haha
take care, and ENJOY the pregnancy- forget everyone else!
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