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Amy, amen sista! Tina, I think Amy couldn't have said it better. I was getting high bp just reading your post because I would just lose it if my mom did that. Just talk to her calmly and let her know you are so appreciative of what she is doing, but that it needs to be fixed somehow. Either send out new invites or call all the guests and give them the new info (new date and correct registry info). If she refuses, tell her you will do it then. Most likely she'll step up at that point and say she will handle it. If not, maybe your bf can? Just don't get upset or angry when dealing with them as it will make it all amess. Calm and relaxed :) It will all be ok! Hey, my mom and a close friend are throwing one of mine and I think it will be ok, but my mom is wanting to get everything planned and bought like yesterday and the shower isn't until May 10, but my friend is being more laid back about it all and I can see some issues arising if they don't compromise. I don't want to get involved but I'm sure I'll have to at some point (either slow my mom down or speed my friend up) ha ha....

AMY - thank you so much - I do believe I will have to intervene .....I just couldn't sleep last night - I was lying there thinking - ok even if their conversation got heated I just don't understand why my mom would do that.....I talked to my dh and he normally steers clear but he said babe I am a dude and even I know it's not ok to have a party with out Marcy - so anyway AMY I love how you have it all planned out before you talk - the thing is that I believe that we are all close - and because they are so much alike - control freaks this is why they are b___ting heads and I told Marcy (my bf) that....she agreed - so she said this morning that she will talk to my mom and get it worked out.....but I think we all need to sit down and clear the air .....I believe they each need apologize to each other and go from there - my mom hasn't responded to my email about the registry so I guess I'll see what she says.....you guys are awesome and thanks for being supportive KOLLEEN - thankfully it's gone today! I was getting really p__sed and already stressed last night when I tried to post so .......STEF - thank you for your support about this - I am so glad you guys don't judge either of them and just give me good objective advice - but yes they need to work together for crying out loud!

TINA-thanks, I was a little unsure of if it would be okay to say all that I did, but I just wanted to help, and being over here on this side it's easy to step away from the emotional, personal viewpoint that makes it hard to see your own situation, do you know what I mean? I try hard to not judge others & instead "put myself in their shoes" or try and figure out why people act/believe the way they do, because it helps when you are trying to work things out, but boy is it hard to do sometimes! I hated the idea of you being caught in the middle, that has happened to me many times with my aforementioned sister-in-law & my BF, who can't STAND one another and never have. But if they have to they will put on a happy face for a special day for my sake and that's fine with me. They don't have to like one another, it would be nice, but I live in the real world and I know it's not going to happen, lol! I hope you can find a way to ease this situation, staying calm will help so much and I think it's great that your bf has already decided to try and work things out with your mom, your help may still be needed though, it will help if you do talk with your mom as well, to follow up on your email and the entire situation. There is no harm in (nicely) telling her your expectations for the situation and how you expect her to deal with your bf out of respect for you, and tell her you have already or will tell your bf the same thing in regards to your mom. And the reason you are doing this is out of the love you have for the both of them and that because of that love & respect for them as good women you hold them to high standards & know that they would expect no less from you. I hope it can work out, it might take a few phone calls and conversations, but it's worth it and don't forget, this can set the tone for future situations as well. When they see how you handle this they will most likely remember your strong approach in the future, and that can only help.

AMY -no worries - you guys are the only ones who are sane in my life - it's such a mess I have no choice but to intervene....I'll keep you posted ....you see my bf doesn't want me to intervene because she doesn't want to b__w the surprise but I don't know when the date is so it still will.....even though I pretty much have it figured out....since I know the weekends my bf will be out of town...so...whatever I can't think about it all right now I have to have my head at work......but thank you so much...I really appreciate your insight I love that you guys can be objective....ok I'll be back

hey ladies.. just dropping in.. i see its been pretty quiet today.. whats today? THURSDAY!? lol... well last night i finally felt those back ache that all preggos talk about.. its been hard but ouch it hurts so much i cant even turn around or get up without my dh helping me.. i hear its only gonna get worse.. so im trying to prep myself lol.. :-)

JULIA - you got that right - I think it's going to get worse before it gets better but it will be worth it - yeah everyone is quiet today - I am here though.

yep the back aches are just starting. they are

there goes my stupid laptop, doing what it wants to when it wants. anyways, precious- i know what u mean about your dh having to help u. i cant get off the couch without rolling off it. my dh laughs at me when i tell him about it. he helps me when he is here though. im so emotional today. but what else is new. i feel like i never see my dh. he is always working. and with the weather getting better it gets later and later when he gets home. i mean yeah we totally need the money right now, but when he is home he eats and falls asleep. then he works on saturdays to. i really hate it when im either on the phone with him or im sitting with him talking and his boss calls. i get set to the side. it just sucks sometimes. you know

KOLLEEN - I know how you feel my husband used to do the same thing -I mean not the job but he was so beat he'd come home and eat and then off to sleep I was very lonely...hang in there it will get better - plus once lylee arrives you will be very busy - I have been emotionally also - I cried reading some stupid email today - I looked like a freak at work but oh well....OK girls well guess what ???? It looks like I am getting 2 baby showers! I can't believe it - i am bummed Marcy won't be at my first shower but she is determined and she called a bunch of the girls we used to work with at the newspaper and she's got quite a little crew already RSVP'ing - don't tell her something is going to be hard! LOL - Her and my mom talked and patched things up all on their own without my having to intervene and I can still act surprised about the shower and my mom will never know!! LOL Where were you all today???? I missed you! tty in the morning girls! I hope you are all ok....

Good morning all! TINA - glad to hear that your mom & bf came to a compromise, and although they couldn't work it out so they could do it together, at least they patched things up! And hey, 2 showers! All right! I'm jealous, as far as I know I'm not even getting one! Seems like everyone I know is very much like oh, this your 3rd, you don't need anything. Then again, we really don't need any of the major stuff, so I guess what would people buy? I am going out today, I need some odds & ends and I have a gift certificate for Target from Christmas that I lost and just found for $100! Woo-hoo! I'm going shopping for baby stuff! I haven't bought a thing yet so I'll be able to get some stuff to stock up the changing table and that will make me feel so much more prepared. How's everybody doing? What are everyone's plans for the weekend? Looks like it's going to be rainy & dreary again here in Southeastern PA, more April showers, more May flowers, I guess. Okay, talk to you all later!

AMY- Thanks again - so my best friend took me out to dinner just her and me and it was great!! So relaxing after everything else that had happened - I think that stinks that you won't have a shower - people can always buys you clothes and diapers ....onesies and stuff but maybe someone is going to surprise you...you never know....I love finding money like that LOL - in unwashed jeans or a winter jacket I alway feel like I won the mini lotto....have fun and believe me at Target that $100.00 will go a long way - I just want to thank you so much for supporting me yesterday and sharing your similar story cuz I was feeling pretty blue about it all and it's amazing how just that fast it all turned around and it gonna work out ....it's ok to me if they couldn't work together in the end so long as they are upset with each other anymore - I just love them both so much ....Finally some good sleep - I feel nice and rested and ready for the weekend - I am going to straightened up around the house and fold laundry as I have washed a few loads that are clean and on the sofa ..my dh said he'd help me last night or maybe I told him he was helping ...LOL Ok girls now I just have to get ready for the garage sale I am having next week to help sock away some cash and be ready for when I am off work.! Thanks again to you ALL who helped me yesterday - it really means alot to me! Hugs Happy Friday and I'll check in again once I get to work!

Morning girls! TINA, I'm so glad to hear things worked out so quickly and you are feeling better about it all! Hey, I also got better sleep last night and you know what??? I think I solved the rib pain issue! I wear these really comfy sports bra type things from Fruit of the Loom. I have even before I was pregnant and now I just have bigger sizes. Well, I wear them 24-7 and only take it off when I shower really. Well, I realized that I think my ribcage area is getting bigger or something because I noticed where it hurts when I lie on my side is around the bra line. I finally took it off last early early this a.m. and laid on my side again and no pain! I'll have to try it out for a whole night, but I think the bra is getting too tight or something and is causing the pain when I lie on my side! I hope that is it because I can't do this laying on my back thing much longer.

Good morning! this must be the earliest ive been up lol. it was a tough stiff night 4 me. i wanted to ask u guys.. one of my sister in law the one thats due in June was told by the docs that her uterus dropped? n that she may be due may 26.. so since im not an expert at this whole pregnancy thing lol can anyone tell me.. what happens why does a uterus drop?? and how that happens..

STEF - you are so silly that is funny that after all this time your stinkin bra is too tight??? LOL -well at least your figured it out so now you can get good sleep...JULIA - most women usually drop about 6-8 weeks before their due dates that is normal but that doesn't neccesarily mean she will go early but it's hard to say - sometimes by the end of the pregnancy the doctor in my opinion will say just about anything to keep all of us whiners from crying or demanding induction LOL I am no expert either but I hope that helps

oh ok just wondering.. i am always worried about her she doesnt really understand things right. she'll find more info next week so i guess ill know more.. i am so bored at home. i have to mop my floor in my room but its not easy :-( i am so lazi today and its 70degree outside...

ok this really freaked me out. last night i was in bed and i could feel lylee moving around. it started to feel like a muscle spasam, but then all of a sudden i felt her REALLY REALLY LOW. like she was ready to come out. now i know thats not possible, cuz im only 28 weeks. but what the heck was it? i feel the spasams agian this morning. i am really worried about this. i have never felt this before. atleast i dont remember it with my son. it was eight years ago too though. please someone tell they have felt this before and that im not crazy!!!