What To Do Will It All Be Ok
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i really had no idea where to even ask this question because im so confusing. bare with me.. i just found out that im pregnant. im guessing a lil over a month. had a misscarrage in feb and i haven't been correct since period wise. so if anything 8-9 weeks max. before i conceived i drank alot, really didn't eat well. and these past weeks i've drank alot too! im so scared of what my before and after behavior could have done to my baby. i am a mother of the best 3 yr s old who will be 4 in july. his father and i have been apart for about 2 yrs now. we get along great. he is a good dad. we share custody..his family and i all get along. not a bad situation. well my bf and i have been together for about 8months but we've know eachother since kids. first time in my life i feel like this guy is the ONE! i do in my heart believe he is the one i may marry. i see a future with him........HERES MY PROBLEM: im a student and a hairstylist. make a decent livng and he is a chef. i feel even if he wasn't ready to be a dad emotionally or finacially i am. i know having this baby will be way harder than my last but im a strong women who is smart and i know i can do it. a part of me feels stong in doing this, but another part thinks that my bf n i really haven't been together that long and maybe we should wait a while. i've had an abortion before in my teen yrs (im 27) and i really don't think i can do that again. my child is everything! im just scared of having 2 kids from 2 different dads..not married...and not well off. no one knows of my news im still unsure of what will be the right decision. any advise?
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odelot, i think you should just follow your heart, make your decison before you tell or don't tell people the news. It's your life, and you know what you can handle, and i'm sure you will make the decison that best suits you. As far as having two children from two different kids, if this guy is the love of your life, and he wants to have a child right now with you, then go for it, it's not like when you you go out in public that people will look at you and think gross she has multiple children with different men, people adopt, get divorced, get prego without out getting married.. it 2008, life styles are different right now, live your life how you want to and what make YOU and your bf happy. Good luck!
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You sound like a very strong woman, no one can decide whats best for you but yourself. If it's any inspiration my boyfriend and i, who were friends for 5 or 6 years decided to get together in an actual relationship and i got pregnant about 4 months later. It's been two years, we're expecting our second and we're going strong. Sometimes it is hard, we are still very young, younger than you, but it's what felt right to me and i would never ever change my decisions. Best of Luck.
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