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Danielle, I got married when I was 18 and Matt was 21. We live in the U.S. and here it is tradition (however many people are shying away and paying for their own weddings) that the parents pay for a lot of it. Here is a traditional breakdown of costs. http://www.ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays_for_what.html Take out any dashes that may appear but leave in the underscores. I understand that your parents may not be able to help, but this is how I afforded my wedding and probably a lot of other people.

Erica thanks alot for your post and i am having a look at the website u gave me thank you

Not at all but its all up to you if u feel rite

no you're not too young. if you planned and ready go for it. why not. i'm 21 and trying with my bf. he and i have talked and planned from everything to missing out on theme park rides to daycare and all that. and we're ready! so go talk it over with him and once ready, then go for it

im 19 years old and 20 weeks pregnant...im happy he's happy...so theres no reason why you shouldnt have a child...like everyone else said as long as you feel ready then dont worry about it...you will get some comments from people i had a lady come into my place of work and look at my stomach and say are you pregnant and i said yes...she got this really sad look on her face and said im sorry then walked off...i had to hold myself back from slappin her...so jus b ready for a few comments from people who are uptight or jus dont believe in havin a child at our age...hope i helped

no i was 19 when i had my frist son, if you are read to put ur need on hold untill ur kid(s) grow up . but u need to talk with ur b-f b4 u do any thing

Danielle- in response to your wedding question. In the states it is cusomary for the brides parents to pay, but in my situation we are doing our own entire wedding. I am 20. We set ourselves a budget. You can find places to marry that will hold your wedding and reception for very very reasonable..... We found a place for 1000 bucks with a 500 dollar deposit. We can only have 100-150 guests, but we can work that out. Try having family help make the food instead of getting a caterer..... Have somebody you know take your pictures..... there are all kinds of ways to save money on your wedding. We have spent about 3000 dollars. And we are almost done planning it. I hope that helps :)

cathi25-I am only 20 and am currently 29 weeks along. This pregnancy wasn't planned but my fiance and I couldn't go through with abortion something that we created out of love. I couldn't be happier! I do worry about how things will work out for us, being so young and everything but this is something that we decided was right for us! If you feel like it would be in everyones best interest, including the baby to be, then go for it! Check out my piczo site..... www.toria1985.piczo.com If it's truely meant to be it will happen!

cathi 25 i am also 19 years old and expecting my first child. we just recently bought a house and we both have very high paying jobs, so go ahead if you are ready! of course it was not planned but we are getting ready everyday!! good luck with everything!

MY SISTER IS 19 she's young yes, but her fiance is supportive and our families are behind her everystep of the way. so if you have the right support and can afford it and be a good mom...19 is no prob at all. :)

What many young women seem to not see is exactly what they'll miss out on by having children when they are barely out of childhood themselves. The most self-defining years of a woman's life are her twenties. Women who have children young end up solely defining themselves as "mother." Don't you ladies want to accomplish anything in life and contribute meaningfully to society? Having children is not an accomplishment. Anyone can have children. Any woman can be a mother (whether she can sustain a pregnancy or not). If you don't want to be anything in life outside of "mommy," then have kids at 19. You won't know what you're missing anyway, because you will have thrown it away. Ignorance is bliss.

Lin, why are you under the impression that if you are a young mom you have no outside life? You are really closed minded to think that there are no young women who end up successful. Young parents take vacations and have fun, they can have romantic dinners alone, and get good jobs and go to college. Who are you to say that having children is not meaningful? That's your opinion, not a fact and should be stated that way. Who are you to care if someone just wants to be a mother and/or wife? It's not the 50's anymore, which means women have choices. If you want to be a ball busting carreer woman, go for it. But there is also the forgotten option of being a wife and mother. Forgive me for being family oriented. Not everyone wants to spend long hours in the office, just like not everyone wants to spend all day in spit-up stained clothes. But it's not up to other people to decide who should want to do what. And you are right, ignorance is bliss. You are not a mom yet and you are already talking like all life ends once you have kids. So not true.

Lin, I see where you are coming from, but I disagree strongly. I had my daughter when I was 19, she was unplanned, but everything fell into place, and now our family is very happy and successful. We are expecting another child in November, this one planned, and I will be 21 when this little one is born. Being a mother is easy, all it takes is a womb, but being a good mother is truly an accomplishment. I do have days when I see young women having coffee or dinner together, completely carefree, and think, I will never be them again. But it isn't a sad feeling. I look at them and they seem so lonely to me, even though they are surrounded by friends. I love being a mother, it doesn't make me worthless, it doesn't mean that I am missing out on life either. I am still in school. I have hobbies and wonderful friends and family. I still try to challenge my mind every day. Even though I'm a mommy, that doesn't mean that every cell in my brain is consumed with diapers, drool and baby talk. I am still a person, my mind is my own. And I am not less of a person because I tend to spend most of my time with a gorgeous little person who is in love with elmo and could live on bananas and cheerios. I have so much in life, I am incredibly happy, fulfilled and well-rounded. I have a question for you. Are you a mother right now, or are you pregnant? By the tone of your letter you either sound like an extremely jaded and unhappy momma, or someone who is going to be completely suprised when your little one is finally born. If the latter is the case, good luck.

Good luck! I am 17 and i desperatley want a baby with my long-term partner but we have decided to wait until i am 19. I think that if you feel ready and you know that you can give that child a loving/stable/healthy life then go ahead. No one can judge you as they do not know you and in the end it is your and your boyfriends decision. I do not understand everyone's thoughts that you should be married before you have children, that it gives you stability. My mother isn't married but she has been with her boyfriend for a very very long time. They are very stable. Some people just don't want to get married. Who needs papers to decide that you are now ready to have a child?

I was 18 when I had my first, I turned 19 during y pregnancy. Mak sure you think long and hard about having a baby, I know for me tat I MAY have done things different, I love my daughter, i takes a lot of growing up. I am pregnant with nunber two and I just turned 20. This will be hard, btw the first one was planned this one wasnt.

Hey vegan_lalaland. You sound a lot like me, except my first one wasn't planned, and my second one was. How old are your children. My dd is 19 months old, and I am 5 months pregnant with a boy! I am 20, and will be 21 when our son is born.