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I agree entirely with marcie,you have it so right,so she did have a messed up life before commiting into this relationship,and saw it as a way out.I don;t care what you do Amanda,I don't know you,and its your life.These women have some very good points,and you should realise that instead of going off on one.To say these people are narrow minded is a joke,you are the one who is narrow minded,at a young age,jumped into marriage,wanting a baby..just to broaden the family,but as people say,we are not narrow minded in pointing out other factors,like your obvious immaturity in some of the things you asy,like realising when people say you grow up,change values on what is right and wrong,creating a life that is there for good,you have to be sure in your own mind that this is stable,you are ready.I admire women that do not jump headlong into a relationship,have a baby too fast,they split and move onto the next.

I am narrow minded? Because I got married at 14 and want a child? umm I don't think that is narrow minded, that just means that I am different then most and I am open to all ideas. That is the complete opposite. you guys are narrow minded saying that I was immature to get married at 14, and by thinking that your way is the only right way. I most certainly didn't think that my marriage was a way out that's such bull I got married because I loved him and I still do. I am obviously immature, how? and you admire women that don't rush headlong into a relationship excuse me i waited 2 years to get married, and i waited 2 years to even start trying to have kids and almost another 2 years actively trying, that's not rushing, rushing would have been to start trying right away and i didn't because i knew that i wasn't ready. you guys really need to understand that everyone is different because until you do you will stay narrow-minded and judgmental.

"Narrow-minded, " is an adjective used to describe a person who is intolerant or inflexible in their point of view regarding others. Narrow-minded often describes a person who subscribes to rigid dogma or religious viwpoints. In some instances, the word is used to describe a person who is easily offended by the relatively harmless behavior of others. judg·men·tal (jŭj-mĕn'tl) adj. Of, relating to, or dependent on judgment: a judgmental error. Inclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones: a marriage counselor who tries not to be judgmental. now who does that sound like? me or you?

Sorry Amanda,I have to agree with other posts,yes you are narrow minded because you cannot see a broader picture.You see nothing wrong in getting married 14,that shows immaturity in itself.If you are able to marry at 14 then you should be able to vote and drink,but as your body and mind is not mature you don't,the same should be in place for marriage.If you cannot see getting married at 14 wrong,then you still are immature.As women have told you experience changes your perception on life,its called growing up.You are not even close to making life long decisions at the age of 14.To say you are different than most,thank God for that,other immature girls who have one of their 1st boyfriends think its love,rebel against their parents,have their parents intervine in some diplomatic way,its called having a troubled teenager.Carrie's post was very good,she does'nt sound to me someone who is narrow minded,now getting married at 14,failing to see other people's point on something that is clearly wrong,that is narrow minded,but I would use immaturity,and with views like that,I don't think you are ready to be a mother.Just a fragment I know about you,whats wrong with marrying at 14?..It says everything about you really!

no your right i don't see anything wrong with getting married at 14, i have been with my husband for 5 years and married for 3 1/2 years and we are very happy. no it is definitely not normal but the law said that i could get married and it was my choice to. and my mother is fine with it, she loves my husband and knows that he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. i do see their point of view and i understand it but they do not understand mine at all. no most teenagers should not get pregnant, they don't have the money or the stable relationship or they want it because they think that its cool. well guess what i have the money, i have a stable relationship and i know that it is not cool to have a kid at a young age but that's not why i want one. i am definitely not narrow minded, i am open to everything and i don't think that its wrong for people to be different then others because that is what defines us as people.you think that you are mature, you think that you are open minded well it really doesn't sound like it. you want to criticize my life well that's just fine you go ahead and do that but do i criticize anyone? no i don't, and you know why i don't? because i don't feel the need to put anyone down, its not how i my mind works, and it doesn't make me feel good about my self when i do. you don't think that i am ready to be a mother, then that is your opinion and i don't really care what other people think anymore, i don't think a lot of people should have kids but that is because of the kind of people they really are, its not based on their age or what they did that may not be normal or because its not something that i would do, the only thing that matters is who they truly are and the problem on this forum is that nobody cares about that, they only care about how old you are, what age you got married, and that you are doing things differently then they did. the only thing that I wish is that I don't ever become like the people on this site because most of you people are rude or just plain mean and that is not what I wish for myself. i don't know what love is? huh well then why would i still be with my first real boyfriend? i wouldn't, i know what love is and if i didn't love my husband i wouldn't stay with him and i definitely would not be trying to have a kid with him. if i didn't love him i would leave him because you only live once and what's the point of spending your life unhappy? you guys really help me a lot, sometimes you make me laugh, sometimes you make me mad, sometimes the "older people" shock me because their maturity level should be so high and yet they act like 2 year olds, and you always give me something to talk to my husband about who laughs about some of the things said on here, so i just wanted to thank everyone on here because with all the arguments it has kind of occupied my mind while i have been trying to get pregnant.

amanda, im glad you are happy now, but in the future you might change. believe me ive been with my first boyfriend since i was 14, I SWORE I really believed i loved him, but when i got to the age 20 and now 21, i see things way differently. I do love him but im not "in love" with him, u get? And everything would have been fine you know, we would have just broken up, remained friends and thats it, BUTTT I had a child with this man when i was 17 (unplanned), and that is what makes things harder for me now. Girl just wait til you are atleast 20, 21 you will see that your mind changes and you see things different, have different priorities. Im not saying you will stop loving this guy or anything but it is possible you may lose interest, and having a baby will just make things harder.

Amanda, how old is your husband?

why would you like to know that?

isnt he like 7 years older than you, i think i remember you saying that. So you were like 12 when he was 19.

actually yes thats right. why? just another weird thing to you people and i have given up telling people on the internet my husbands age because saying stuff about me i can live with, i dont like people talking about my husband. and its not such a big thing to us or our family. my parents were almost 15 years apart.

I have 12 year-old twins (boy and girl), quite honestly, they still think even kissing someone is gross. If a 19 year-old guy came after my daughter, my husband would kill him....literally. And that's only if I didn't get to him first. I can't even imagine.....Not putting you down at all Amanda, if anything I feel pretty sorry for you (I know of course you don't, and for now you are happy), but I still do. I have to agree with the others that having a baby is a really bad idea, but of course it is your life, and your life hasn't exactly been normal. And it's your own life to live how you want. Just make sure, if you do decide to get pregnant, to give that baby as normal a life as possible. I would really suggest seeking some family counceling as well to get a professional opinion for the sake of the baby (since you really don't like other people's opinions). And I mean that purely for the sake of the baby since you, yourself, seem to be very happy right now. But that way you can make sure you are doing what's right for a child. Goodluck.

don't waste your time feeling sorry for me, i don't need it. you may not believe that i am happy but i am and the only person that can know that i am happy is me. and no my life hasn't been normal but i thank god for that everyday because it has made me who i am and i am proud of that. i am very happy that your kids think that kissing is still gross but a lot of teenagers are having s_x at a young age, no matter how hard you try to stop it it will continue to happen. you don't think that i am ready to have children, that is your opinion but mine is that i am and my husband thinks so to and we are the only 2 people that can make that decision and know what is right for us. And I was planning on giving my child a normal life but maybe I shouldn't because they might come out like the people on this forum and that is not what I wish for them. i want my children to be good, acceptable, loving people and that is not what i have seen on this forum and i am sure that the people on here have what is considered a "normal" life.

Why are you so called 'mature' women judging amanda? all you've been doing is trying to put her down in suttle little ways and quite frankly shes been more muture then you by not fighting back. If she was a stupid imature teenager she'd just call you all b___hes and leave, shes defending herself. if she didnt tell you her age, then it sounds like to me shes got it pretty sussed, stable home, money in the bank and a husband. You are narrow minded if you cant accept the fact that some people mature more then others. Just because she's doing what she wants in life and not what society expects of her. quite frankly she seems way more happyer then all of you and shes the one getting abused! Teenagers get abused on every site and its unfair. your saying just because were younger your better mothers then us? Amanda is one of a few teenagers who actually seems like shes got her head on her shoulders. Your all int_tled to your opinion but not one of you has put forward nicely in a non judgmental way why she should wait. youve disscussed how wrong you think it is and how it 'makes my stomach turn'. (a really productive argument) you post is nothing usefull or has any importance to ANYONE you just wanted a good old nag. wel put the kettle on and invite your next door neighbour round cause im sick of negative people like you who have nothing to do but critisize everyone else but themself.

Louise,this is a forum,and you pa__s on opinions,otherwise this is pointless.If Amanda said something and there was no reaction,then she would leave this site,like me its good getting some banter back.I agree that if it was'nt her age she would seem mature,but there are some things she says that shows her immaturity.She can see nothing wrong in marrying a man at 14,not that is immature.I remember at that age,thinking I loved a boy,we went our separate ways,and yrs later I realise that it was'nt love,just rebelling against my parents and enjoying his company.When you are 14 you cannot vote,you cannot drink,as been said before there is a reason for that.You are not narrow minded to think this is wrong,like someone beating another person up,there is no two ways about it,thats wrong,same with 14 and marrying,its wrong,simple as that.We have put reasons why she should wait,you see things differently when you are older etc etc.I think her husband should have shown her more respect,I'm not saying he does'nt love her,as I don't know them,and it would be narrow minded of me to say that,but I think he should have gave her a bit of time,there is nothing wrong in courting for a while.My parents would have been mortified if I said I was getting married at such a tender age,because its wrong.There was a lot of scandal when Mandy Smith married Bill Wyman,not just because of her age,but because of under age s_x,another reason why,Louise,it is wrong,because there are legal issues.Love is an emotion,that varies from one to another,my husband loves me,and if it meant I told him we were emigrating,then he would,he certainly would agree that it is foolish to marry at such an age,and as b__wn away said about her husband,if anyone had tried to touch her when she was 13 he'd have killed them,in fact he did warn a few "boys"away,because he cared about his sister.

So do you girls even believe that any age is too young? I've met some very mature children who have good lives, do great in school, are well behaved, and act a lot older than they are. What about a 10 or 11 year-old who has started her period. That okay for her to start having s_x? What about 9 years? Do you believe any age is too young and why? Do you believe it is okay for a 9, 10, 11 year old (etc) to drink whenever they want? At what age do you think people should be considered adults? Just curious as to what your views are on this.

i think that this post should be erased. you don't agree with my life and that's fine, but its my life, its not yours, you don't have to live it so why not just drop it? its ridiculous that anything i say on here is criticized and sorry to say its not very "mature". if you want to believe that your life is better then mine then why don't you act like it? instead of coming on here and acting like a bunch of unhappy people that can only be happy by putting other people down. i do have growing to do but so do you, maybe you should think of getting a hobby other then putting me and all other different people down. i haven't said 1 inappropriate thing to anyone on here, but maybe if it really turns your stomach thinking about me being married so young, and trying to have a baby i should come on here and start talking about how great my s_x life is. and it is GREAT. maybe i should start talking to everyone like an immature little brat, but then i would lower myself to your level and i am better then that. if your going to continue this post, please leave me out of it because i don't want anything to do with it anymore. thanks bye.