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I agree 100% Steph. Very nicely said.

Who's putting people down here? You are. They're just saying what they think about " Do you think its' ok for a man to watch p___n?" Some say "No it's not ok, I think it's disgusting" Some say " I think it's great and I love it when my husband watches p___n" They're each giving their opinions about it, which is what this forum is all about. You're the only one who has gotten defensive and mean about this. I think it's funny that all the posts were just going along fine and people were stating their opinions without telling each other to "get a life" and other rude stuff like that. Then you get on here and it's all of a sudden a fight. Why did you feel the need to get all up in peoples faces who are just stating their opinions like everyone else in here? I think you're being a little defensive for no reason. There's always going to be people with different opinions than you. It doesn't mean they're opinions are bad. I think you need to learn how to take other peoples comments with a grain of salt because the way you seem to approach things (according to your last post) is bound to make other people defensive. I hope you don't read this in a tone of anger or defense, because I know that tone can get lost somewhere in the translation. It's only a suggestion to look back and see that no one else was upset until you got on here and a suggestion to reevaluate the way you take other people's opinions and say things in your posts.

I was mostly responding to hummm in the beginning of my post and to this one...I copied and posted it so it may look funny....**** Name: q | Date: January 11, 2006, 21:22 Answer: normally I'm not rude in these sites... but you guys are DISGUSTING***** People like this really really irritate me. I think it's perfeclty fine to have different opinions, it's when people like "q" post obnoxious statements like that.

Yeah that person "q" kind of rubbed me the wrong way too. Probably someone who's husband would rather look at p___n than her and she knows it or soemthing. guess we just have to feel sorry for them instead of hate them. but thanks for clarifying for me. I thought you were mad at everyone who didn't agree with p___n :p

Porn doesn't effect me because it is just people on a screen. It's actually rather cheesy because the girls are obviously faking it half the time because I don't know of anyone who honestly sounds like "OH OH YES OH MY GOD YES YOU ARE SOOOOO GREAT" lol. Seeing your hubby check out girls at Walmart is way different then watching videos. The girls in the videos are fake b__w-up doll impersonaters who's acting is about as bad as their b___b jobs. The girls out walking around your town, however, are real life threats. Thankfully when I am out with my hubby he don't look at other girls because he knows it makes me self-conscious. I bet he does it when I'm not with him but as long as I don't see it or have to hear about it I'm fine. I trust him not to cheat on me or look at other girls when we are out together. I can't really ask him for anymore or he may as well be blind.

Kristi, I agree with you, and I know it probably doesn't matter, but just to let you know, I believe Jas is a girl. only because later, under the name Jas (only not in red letters) she said "fine - I trust my dh" I believe it is the same person, she just didn't bother to log in the second time. :o)

Would you ladies please get off it. Not all men that look at p___n are s_x maniacs. You ladies make it sound like just cause you went thru it, and I am truly sorry you did, that every man is like that. I wont disagree that some men are, but not all of them. I see absolutely no problem with watching p___n. The women & men are trying to make a living just like everyone else. And to McKitts respose "Think they WANT to get it on with a horse?" If they didnt want to do it, then they shouldnt have gone to the shoot. They are not there with a gun pointed to their heads and made to do it. I just wanted to let everyone know, I am not talking about all day, everyday watching p___n. I am talking about the men or women who watch it occa__sionally, or look at it online. If they are racking up more on cc bills then household stuff, then yeah there may be a problem, but don't think it is awful if someone watches for an hour or two a couple days a week.

chaycesmom, you had your say, everyone knows how you feel .don't be disrespectful to other peoeple's opinions. "get off it"? it's prett hard for someone whose life was almost runined by p___n to "get of it". be a little more sensitive.

im a female and i totally support my boyfriend with the whole p___n thing. Actually its more the other way around. Im the one whose more interested in it and i can usually convince him to watch with me... Hey, its informative too in a way =} we've found we can do some pretty talented stuff that we would have never thought of other wise lol

Hey- I already said I was sorry to the ladies that have gone thru hard times because of p___n addictions. And since when can you only have one say on here?

ChaycesMom – “I see absolutely no problem with watching p___n.” Girl, are you EVEN for real? It is SO obvious that you don't have a CLUE what goes on behind the scenes at some of these p___n shoots. You need to take your blinders off & realize that YES! Sometimes these women DO have guns pointed to their heads! Some of them are NOT over the age of 18. Some ARE FORCED to do this garbage. Some of these girls ARE even taped while being raped & murdered during the “shoot”! Ever heard of white slavery? Try learning some DARK FACTS on the p___n you have fun watching. It’s NOT pretty. Where the hell do you think some of these missing teen/young adults end up? (One off the top of my head: Amy Bradley. Try a search on her if you don’t believe me!) And you have the nerve to tell me that these sick b___ds are "just trying to make a living"? And don’t put words in my mouth! I do NOT think that ALL MEN are s_x maniacs. Try for a second to put all the fantasy BS aside. PORN is a REAL problem. MY POINT IS: It's people like YOU that keep these sick f***s in business. Great job! It’s all just fantasy games & innocent fun until or YOUR life is completely turned upside-down because you (too) realized TOO LATE that your husband/bf has a s_x addiction or worse yet … your baby, Chayce is it? …ends up in front of one of these cameras forced to do s_xual acts for some money hungry, filthy PIG. Wonder if you’d feel the same if THAT were to happen to YOU? I’m gonna go VOMIT now … I can’t believe how ignorant & dense people can be because it MIGHT disrupt their FUN. Makes me SICK. Mean while, would you say HELLO to Peter Pan for me while you’re visiting Never Never Land?

Sounds like someone is a little bitter... Which is fine - bottom line, everyone is ent_tled to their private lives. Weather you agree or not. Not all p___n watching leads to the dark side. Not all p___n is from the dark side. I am sorry you had a terrible expierence, but not everyone is in your shoes. Some couples enjoy it together - it does not make them nasty or hideous, it makes them human. You don't want p___n in your life - fine. No need to call others names if they chose the opposite. That is what makes us human - we are all different with different likes and beliefs...

Like I haven't heard the "bitter" thing before. Well, GEE ... YA THINK? (I’ve always thought that was about the stupidest thing a person could say too. Thanks for stating the obvious, Einstein.) And while I’m thinking of it, since when is calling out someone's actions calling someone names? GROW UP! I speak the truth. I get called bitter, hateful, rude, a b***h & WORSE all the time for doing so. Guess what? I SO don't care. If that is what it takes to get it through just one person's head that this p___n c___p is NOT a game ... fine ... then I'm all the above. Doesn't matter ... after what I've been through & after what I've read & seen OTHERS go through for the past few years ... I can take being called meaningless names by the clueless ones that refuse to take their heads out of the sand. You can’t EVEN begin to understand until you've lived it yourself. (And I pray to God that you NEVER get to fully understand. NO ONE deserves to be betrayed like that.)

I’ve seen first hand what p___n can lead too. No one EVER comes into an infidelity support group & says, “I knew it was just a matter of time before he/she cheated on me.” When I hear someone say, “I know he/she would NEVER cheat on me” it makes me physically ill. Truth is YOU DO NOT KNOW! It can happen to ANYONE. Listen, I tried to be cool with the p___n in the beginning. I watched it with him. I wanted to be “open”. And I was. But I didn’t KNOW he had an addiction. (He HID that from me. All addicts do!) I’m not saying that all men have an addiction & if you are a couple that enjoys that sort of stuff together … then do it. But in the mean time I AM going to talk about what goes on behind the scenes when things cross that line. If what I say doesn’t apply to YOU … then why get defensive? Why try to justify what you are doing? (Worried much?) No one cares what YOU do in your own home. What I’m saying is p___n is NOT completely harmless by any means. Just like, for SOME, dabbling in a LITTLE bit of drugs can lead to a complete disaster. And for SOME … p___n can do the same!

S_xual addiction is a HUGE problem. I’ll bet some of you didn’t even know that there are S_x Addicts Anonymous Groups that meet DAILY all over the globe. There’s a REASON for that. And guess what? S_x offenders do not just magically wake one morning out of the blue, never having seen any type of p___n in their lives & decide to rape. Ted Bundy’s of the world started with PORN. (HELLO??) Child molesters start out feeding their “hunger” with p___n then one day it’s a real life child, maybe YOUR CHILD. Some men have perfectly happy lives at home, but one day the p___n just isn’t enough. They become desensitized to it & can’t (or won’t) make the distinction between fantasy & reality & they too cross the line, break their vows & destroy the innocent trusting ones he “forgot about” at home. It happens all the time. And I don’t care how someone tries to sugarcoat the c___p … I for one will ALWAYS speak about the dark side of p___n no matter who’s toes I step on. You’re right, not ALL p___n is “dark” … but where do we draw the line? How much do we take before we stand up for ourselves, demand the respect we deserve as wives & girlfriends & say, “ENOUGH is ENOUGH!”? His affair was my breaking point. And I wish to God that I had had the courage to draw that line YEARS before it got that far. If only someone would have spoke out like I AM DOING … maybe, just maybe I would have listened.

McKitt, I agree with you, I watched p___n tear my parents marriage apart at the seams.(technically my mom and step dad, but he was my step dad for 11 years). Addiction... the word is so commonly attached to drugs and alcohol, but with p___n, it's like people are scared too. Like women are scared to admit that their husband could be addicted to other women's bodies and in some cases much darker s_xual things. But the truth is, it is so common and I believe it is getting even more common. Some boys, teenagers, college kids get addicted to p___n while they're growing up and then they drag it into their marriages and if the woman isn't willing to live with the addiction, it kills the marriage. My husband knows how I feel and he looks away if a girl is even in a swimsuit on TV because it makes me feel better, I check the computer history to make sure he hasn't been into anything, and when I'm home he has to ask if he can get on the computer. Some people might think that it's horrible that I keep him on such a short leash but it works for us. He knew before he married me what my parents divorce had done to me and that, quite frankly, on stuff like that I don't trust him, or anybody for that matter. But I do satisfy him in bed and I do let him take a lot of s_xy pictures of me and videos of us so he has something to look at if he wants. I am a very dominant person and he is not. He has no problem with my rules or my routine checks and questions. We are both Christians and believe that lusting after another person is cheating on your spouse and he is so wonderful about not doing anything that would bother me. people say if we put side blinders on them that they will resent us? I gave him an ultimatum, marry me and recieve a lifetime supply of sideblinders or don't marry me and look all you want. He chose to marry me and we are VERY happy. And expecting our first child I might add, lol. Porn might be ok for some couples, but for others who are wounded by it in the past, directly or indirectly... you will not convince us that it is good or even right,