Im So Scared Please Help Me
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Hi everyone im 27 and this is my first baby. Im only 7 weeks pregnant but im absolutely petrified of giving birth!! I think about it everyday, im not good on pain i cant take pain well and i just know i wont be able to handle labour. Im so so so scared i really want this baby but i dont know if i can do it. What shall i do? i dont know why im thinking like this but im just absolutely terrified. Please help me someone.
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Tasha, you should really not stress over that, especially this early in your pregnancy, its not healthy for the baby. I am having my 2nd child soon and I had my first when I was only 18. They have alot of good ways to get rid of the pain for you, and if you really cant do it then you can always have a C-Section. Plus you might be surprised what your body can handle when your in labor, you will soon now what I am talking about, you will be thinking soo much about your baby that you will have a higher tolerance than you think for pain when your giving birth, I say just relax and enjoy having your baby inside you right now and when it gets close to having the baby, know all your options on pain relievers, I suggest an epidural but some women dont even need that. good luck sweetie, you will be fine :)
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To be honest, everytime I'm in labor I swear I'll never do it again, but right after the baby is born I start feeling better and down the road I have another. No matter how bad it is, you won't regret it. Epidurals are great, so consider one. You can't usually feel anything with one. Don't worry so much, it's an exciting and beautiful time. The reward is great!
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hi tasha im 37 and ive had 5 babies. The best way is to not think about it. Easier said than done i know but you will drive yourself insane by worrying about it. Im not good at putting things into words so maybe someone else can help you but please stop worrying coz its not healthy.
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i got pregnant with my first when i was 14. She was born one month after i turned 15. I was the same way, when i found out i was pregnant all i was worried about was the pain of labor. But i remember once i hit 8 months i couldn't wait for the baby to come no matter how painful. I got through it just fine ( with being induced and no epidural) as i'm sure you will too. my daughter is now 9 yrs old and my third is only 2 1/2 weeks old. its really not as bad as you imagine it to be.
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tasha,I have had a natural birth and a section.The natural birth was awaful,they say giving birth is way up high in pain levels,and I can tell you its true.I felt as though my body especially down there was in a vice and being pulled apart,the meds would'nt take,so much for people who advise to take them,sometimes they don't take.the 2nd birth so different,more dignified,chose music,all was fine,with medication the pain from a section is tolerable,they say its major surgery,but it is also a very commen operation these days.
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Oh darl I feel for you..... but believe me you can do it! Remember there are so many different forms of pain relief. After my first I was amazed at how painful it wasnt! If you stay focused and concentrate and dont lose the plot you will be fine. You can do it, your body is designed for it... I would enjoy your pregnancy and try not to think too much about what lays ahead, because it really isnt as bad as you think it will be...xx
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you CAN give birth completely pain free. Epidurals aren't the tool of the devil.. ha ha! If you are that worried about the pain, then just opt for the epidural. It doesn't necessary slow things down, doesn't always end in C-Section, etc. You can do this.
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Tasha, Don't let anyone tell you their horrible stories about birth- I'm not sure why but everyone likes to scare the pregnant lady! My mom told me it isn't anything you can't handle. I know someone who has done it 8 times- it can't be that bad. The key is to feel confident read everything you can, take some cla__ses. Know what to expect- maybe do some affirmations if you beliveve in that, and get the epidural if it will make you feel better.
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tasha,believe me,I just had a planned section,because like you I was so scared,nothing wrong with me or the baby,just the thought.Like marcie said,ok there maybe pain meds,but it did'nt take for her.I can tell you if I had another baby then thats the way to go.You ae more relaxed knowing the date of the baby,avoiding labour,listen to music of your choice,wide awake when the baby is there,recovery is not bad,you maybe a little sore,but pain meds will do wonders for that,and you are able to take your time,unlike labour.People have operations all the time,and sections are no exception.It was a lovely experience.
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Tasha -
I was in the same boat as you several months ago. I am pregnant with my first baby also. If you talk to other women, you will find your emotions and thoughts are perfectly normal for the stage of pregnancy you're in. All I can say is that you'll go through so many aches and pains in the next several months, you'll just want it over with. There are lots of things you can do - pain meds, epidurals, c-section, but don't stress out - that's not good for you or the baby. I know that's easier said than done - as I was in your situation. Occupy yourself with nursery projects and/or pampering yourself. You can do lots to prepare your body also - Like ma__saging yourself for the last few months, etc. Good Luck Honey! I'm due Oct. 18th with my first!
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thanks everyone for your replies. I guess theres nothing i can do about it so i will try not worrying.
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