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For me- I dealt with it with an epidural with my first:) Next two were scheduled C-sections.

i was absolutely beside myself with terror when i found out i was pregnant. now that i am 27 weeks, i have had some time to think about it and be educated and talk toother women... and although i am NOT looking forward to it - im not a scared. if u r pregnant it will be the same for you i htink and just remember if all else fais, GET DRUGS and it wnt be as bad. :o) there are lots of option for pain relief during labor. :o)

Honestly, I went to a website on here that someone posted about "natural, no-pain childbirth"...yeah, sounds stupid I know. It did calm my nerves, however, to hear inspiring stories from women who have given birth to their children and delivered them THEMSELVES. lol. Like I'd ever do that! It still helped eased me for some odd reason...it's around here somewhere so you might want to look for it. There are some pictures, but nothing that made me want to put a plug in my you-know-what.

Honestly it's nothing to be scared about. My biggest fear was feeling stuck--like you're in a situation you're in that you don't want to be in and there's no way out. That doesn't happen at all. You go into kind of an instinctual haze. It sounds corny but you become incredibly focused on the labour and only the labour and you don't care about ANYTHING else. You don't care if you poop yourself, or if you tear, or if your b___bs are showing. There could have been a theater of people watching, and you just wouldn't care. ALL THAT MATTERS IS BABY OUT! Your brain kind of shuts off that way. The other thing is you're kind of like on a rollercoaster. Your brain kind of accepts that there's no getting off. There's times when things are calm, and then there's those terrible moments when you just want it to be over--but before you know it, it's over! Kathy, hearing other women in labour, screaming--it's naturally a very frightful experience. If you don't feel comfortable watching them--there's no reason why you have to! I watched some and could easily have done without seeing it. Lastly, once it's over you have this wonderful feeling of relief. You can't believe that you did it, and the baby is out and oh sooo beautiful! Congratulations on your pregnancy, and I wish you a very happy birth experience

It is scary to see other births when you have not experienced it yourself. I am due to have my 3rd in January and was lucky enough to have my first 2 "naturally" I understand it is not for everyone though. I educated myself on everything that was happening to my body and I found that I was about to focus on the work my body was doing instead of the pain. I did have pain (my #2 was 9lbs 13oz) but it was never unbearable and I think because I did not fight it I just tried to go with it my labors were not that long (6 & 8 hours). I am nervous about delivery again this time, but I can only hope my body does what it is meant to for a third time. Best wishes!

Just remember that you won't be experiencing labor from that end, but the opposite. I never saw my own baby coming out, I was too focused on the nurse coaching me to breathe and push. It's not that bad when they put a screen, and even without a screen, you don't have to look. If pain scares you, opt for an epidural. It'll be much easier with it.

I agree with Sophia! I think nature was smart in a way to make our tummies so huge so we can't SEE down there. However, i honestly think you just don't care...lol. My husband said it LOOKED really scary and painful, but I'm till this day completely oblivious to it.

It's weird, I always had a terrible fear of being pregnant and giving birth, now that I am 39 wks I just see it as the finale to a new horizon. I was so afraid when I went to my first doctors appointment and I was talking to my husband like how am I going to do this. I also have had the mantra that if it was the most horrific thing in the world everyone would be only children, we'd have no brothers or sisters because no woman would do it again. Well we're not all only children, so I guess it can't be that bad. I still haven't had my baby, but I am ready to have the next process(labor) start. I want to see my baby, and that is my biggest comfort.

yeah Erynn, I said that too during my first pregnancy. Birth is such a contrast between the most life-and death dramatic moment in your life and yet at the same time it's probably also the most normal. Everyone's mother has been through this, and grandmother, and grandmothers mother---and the one before. (; We've been bred to breed!