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Hi ladies, I've been pouring through this site since my first ultrasound yesterday. I'm 7w2d, measured correctly but the OB had a hard time detecting hb. She brought in another dr. who detected hb but said it was very low. They didn't tell me what it was; I could see it blipping on the monitor, slowly, but they said it needed to be around 140 and blipping rapidly. Needless to say, the dr. advised me to "not share the news with anyone" as the prognosis was threatened miscarriage/abortion, then patted my arm with sympathy, stated, "I'm sorry" and left the room. My OB was much more rea__suring but still advised me to prepare for miscarriage; I was not prepared to leave this appt. to prepare for a miscarriage! I went and got blood work done so am waiting on the results. I still feel the symptoms of pregnancy - things smell bad, floaty feelings, food is either desirable or disgusting, I'm tired all the time; though b___st soreness has gone down significantly. I'm not ready to mourn and have been doing some homework around hormone levels if this is the case. If low hb is due to a chromosomal abnormality then there really is not much I can do about that and that I can begin to accept, with heartbreak of course. This is my first pregnancy at 39, planned and wanted dearly by my partner and I who have been trying for well over a year. I have told several friends so as to create a supportive circle, which is so important no matter what happens. I really hate that the dr. advised me to not tell anyone, I just chalk that up to the medical lens which often dismisses the emotional world and needs of women (and children) mostly (sorry if I offend anyone here, it's just that has been my experience and education in this area is severely lacking). I'm off to make a wild yam tea and get a good walk in, visualize, and perhaps shed some tears. I'm thinking of all of you in a similar position and sending loving thoughts. Thanks for posting your experiences, it feels important and supportive. I'll keep you all updated as the days pa__s. I have another appt on Monday the 30th. Love.

Hi ladies, I've been pouring through this site since my first ultrasound yesterday. I'm 7w2d, measured correctly but the OB had a hard time detecting hb. She brought in another dr. who detected hb but said it was very low. They didn't tell me what it was; I could see it blipping on the monitor, slowly, but they said it needed to be around 140 and blipping rapidly. Needless to say, the dr. advised me to "not share the news with anyone" as the prognosis was threatened miscarriage/abortion, then patted my arm with sympathy, stated, "I'm sorry" and left the room. My OB was much more rea__suring but still advised me to prepare for miscarriage; I was not prepared to leave this appt. to prepare for a miscarriage! I went and got blood work done so am waiting on the results. I still feel the symptoms of pregnancy - things smell bad, floaty feelings, food is either desirable or disgusting, I'm tired all the time; though b___st soreness has gone down significantly. I'm not ready to mourn and have been doing some homework around hormone levels if this is the case. If low hb is due to a chromosomal abnormality then there really is not much I can do about that and that I can begin to accept, with heartbreak of course. This is my first pregnancy at 39, planned and wanted dearly by my partner and I who have been trying for well over a year. I have told several friends so as to create a supportive circle, which is so important no matter what happens. I really hate that the dr. advised me to not tell anyone, I just chalk that up to the medical lens which often dismisses the emotional world and needs of women (and children) mostly (sorry if I offend anyone here, it's just that has been my experience and education in this area is severely lacking). I'm off to make a wild yam tea and get a good walk in, visualize, and perhaps shed some tears. I'm thinking of all of you in a similar position and sending loving thoughts. Thanks for posting your experiences, it feels important and supportive. I'll keep you all updated as the days pa__s. I have another appt on Monday the 30th. Love.

Hi ladies, I've been pouring through this site since my first ultrasound yesterday. I'm 7w2d, measured correctly but the OB had a hard time detecting hb. She brought in another dr. who detected hb but said it was very low. They didn't tell me what it was; I could see it blipping on the monitor, slowly, but they said it needed to be around 140 and blipping rapidly. Needless to say, the dr. advised me to "not share the news with anyone" as the prognosis was threatened miscarriage/abortion, then patted my arm with sympathy, stated, "I'm sorry" and left the room. My OB was much more rea__suring but still advised me to prepare for miscarriage; I was not prepared to leave this appt. to prepare for a miscarriage! I went and got blood work done so am waiting on the results. I still feel the symptoms of pregnancy - things smell bad, floaty feelings, food is either desirable or disgusting, I'm tired all the time; though b___st soreness has gone down significantly. I'm not ready to mourn and have been doing some homework around hormone levels if this is the case. If low hb is due to a chromosomal abnormality then there really is not much I can do about that and that I can begin to accept, with heartbreak of course. This is my first pregnancy at 39, planned and wanted dearly by my partner and I who have been trying for well over a year. I have told several friends so as to create a supportive circle, which is so important no matter what happens. I really hate that the dr. advised me to not tell anyone, I just chalk that up to the medical lens which often dismisses the emotional world and needs of women (and children) mostly (sorry if I offend anyone here, it's just that has been my experience and education in this area is severely lacking). I'm off to make a wild yam tea and get a good walk in, visualize, and perhaps shed some tears. I'm thinking of all of you in a similar position and sending loving thoughts. Thanks for posting your experiences, it feels important and supportive. I'll keep you all updated as the days pa__s. I have another appt on Monday the 30th. Love.

Hi ladies, I've been pouring through this site since my first ultrasound yesterday. I'm 7w2d, measured correctly but the OB had a hard time detecting hb. She brought in another dr. who detected hb but said it was very low. They didn't tell me what it was; I could see it blipping on the monitor, slowly, but they said it needed to be around 140 and blipping rapidly. Needless to say, the dr. advised me to "not share the news with anyone" as the prognosis was threatened miscarriage/abortion, then patted my arm with sympathy, stated, "I'm sorry" and left the room. My OB was much more rea__suring but still advised me to prepare for miscarriage; I was not prepared to leave this appt. to prepare for a miscarriage! I went and got blood work done so am waiting on the results. I still feel the symptoms of pregnancy - things smell bad, floaty feelings, food is either desirable or disgusting, I'm tired all the time; though b___st soreness has gone down significantly. I'm not ready to mourn and have been doing some homework around hormone levels if this is the case. If low hb is due to a chromosomal abnormality then there really is not much I can do about that and that I can begin to accept, with heartbreak of course. This is my first pregnancy at 39, planned and wanted dearly by my partner and I who have been trying for well over a year. I have told several friends so as to create a supportive circle, which is so important no matter what happens. I really hate that the dr. advised me to not tell anyone, I just chalk that up to the medical lens which often dismisses the emotional world and needs of women (and children) mostly (sorry if I offend anyone here, it's just that has been my experience and education in this area is severely lacking). I'm off to make a wild yam tea and get a good walk in, visualize, and perhaps shed some tears. I'm thinking of all of you in a similar position and sending loving thoughts. Thanks for posting your experiences, it feels important and supportive. I'll keep you all updated as the days pa__s. I have another appt on Monday the 30th. Love.

Hi ladies, I've been pouring through this site since my first ultrasound yesterday. I'm 7w2d, measured correctly but the OB had a hard time detecting hb. She brought in another dr. who detected hb but said it was very low. They didn't tell me what it was; I could see it blipping on the monitor, slowly, but they said it needed to be around 140 and blipping rapidly. Needless to say, the dr. advised me to "not share the news with anyone" as the prognosis was threatened miscarriage/abortion, then patted my arm with sympathy, stated, "I'm sorry" and left the room. My OB was much more rea__suring but still advised me to prepare for miscarriage; I was not prepared to leave this appt. to prepare for a miscarriage! I went and got blood work done so am waiting on the results. I still feel the symptoms of pregnancy - things smell bad, floaty feelings, food is either desirable or disgusting, I'm tired all the time; though b___st soreness has gone down significantly. I'm not ready to mourn and have been doing some homework around hormone levels if this is the case. If low hb is due to a chromosomal abnormality then there really is not much I can do about that and that I can begin to accept, with heartbreak of course. This is my first pregnancy at 39, planned and wanted dearly by my partner and I who have been trying for well over a year. I have told several friends so as to create a supportive circle, which is so important no matter what happens. I really hate that the dr. advised me to not tell anyone, I just chalk that up to the medical lens which often dismisses the emotional world and needs of women (and children) mostly (sorry if I offend anyone here, it's just that has been my experience and education in this area is severely lacking). I'm off to make a wild yam tea and get a good walk in, visualize, and perhaps shed some tears. I'm thinking of all of you in a similar position and sending loving thoughts. Thanks for posting your experiences, it feels important and supportive. I'll keep you all updated as the days pa__s. I have another appt on Monday the 30th. Love.

Dear Community, Please accept my sincere apologies at how many times my post was posted! I'm so embarra__sed. I kept coming to a page that said "page unavailable, please try again later" when I initially attempted to post, so I kept trying. Unbeknownst to me, the post just kept reposting. Any ideas on how to delete them? So so sorry. With embarra__sment and apology.

Kitsunefox, how did your ultrasound go yesterday? I have to wait a week for my next ultrasound (next tue) and the last one showed a very low heart rate. I am supposed to be 9 weeks pregnant today but the scan I had 3 days ago showed a measurement of a fetus only 7 weeks old and the heart rate at 69bpm. I know it should be at least 120 at this point. The ultrasound was done at a free clinic so I'm hoping it was just incompetence or technical error. I'm still trying to find a similar situation with a positive outcome. I'm 38 years old and if I make it to 9 months I'll be 39 at delivery. My next appt is with an actual doctor, waiting the week will be tough though.

kitsunefox I wanted to know how your ultra sound went yesterday. I am also waiting to have another ultrasound since the one I had on Sat. showed I was only 7 weeks with a fetal hr of 69bpm which is very low. I should have been showing more like 9 weeks (8 weeks and 5 days) so I am very worried and have been searching and searching the internet to find any stories like mine with a positive outcome. I'm 38 years old and it will be my first baby. If I make it to 9 months I'll be 39 when I deliver. I had a miscarriage 12 years ago when I was 26 and have not been pregnant since then. Im really hoping to be a mom this time.

Hi Averycindy310, I haven't been back on here since the week I posted, so I'm sorry I missed your post. I'm hoping all is well with you and your subsequent doctor's appointments. I'll catch you a bit on how the past several weeks have been and the decisions I've made. The week of that appointment was very emotional. I decided to stop by a highly recommended midwife center near where I live the Friday before my second scheduled ultrasound. I met two highly experienced midwives who listened to my experience, with empathy and even hugs. We talked for a bit and I left feeling like I was heard and held as well as that I had options and power in how I wanted to proceed. I cancelled my second ultrasound. I drank teas. I slept, stayed off the internet, tried to eat as best I could (thank you morning sickness), took walks, talked and cried with my partner, made an altar for the little one, burned candles and told the little one he/she was dearly wanted. So, currently, I am at week 11, with a small but yet prominent bump. Still experiencing symptoms of pregnancy and planning to go the midwife route. Meaning, no more transv____al ultrasounds until a midwife advises me to. I've had no cramping, no bleeding. I was told, and I agree, that having an ultrasound before 12 weeks, unless completely necessary, is well, unnecessary. I wasn't even told what the heart rate was; I was told to come in so that the doctor's could determine whether my pregnancy was viable. Well, that isn't ok with me. I have a long history with doctors who disempower and I'm not going to have any more of that. This is my first baby and I want to proceed in a different way. It hasn't been easy, not knowing and trying to trust, no matter what happens. I will not buy into the lens that older moms (us, in our late 30's to early 40's) need to be treated like a high risk. It is completely crazy making. So, I'm going with the flow of life - attempting my best anyway. I will soon see a midwife, who will check the heart rate by doppler (ultrasounds emit radiation each and every time into the fetus) and I will take things as they come. Averycindy, I don't know how things have been with you, but I'm hoping the best for you. I know how stressful this can be. I want you to know, though, that no matter what happens or has happened, try to trust. You are still young and women have healthy babies into their mid forties - completely naturally! The problem is that the medical field rarely doc_ments these women, one, I think, is because many of these women go the midwife route. I'm reading Ina May's Guide to Childbirth, which doc_ments many of these women. I highly recommend it. Even if this pregnancy does not progress, this does not mean you or I will not have healthy baby in the near future. My advice from my current experience is allow for all your feelings, move with them, try to decrease stress (which sometimes means staying off the computer to find stories - I did this and it helped to listen to my own body) and connect with close family and friends for support. I have heard many a positive story, many little miracles. The fact is, as one of the midwives told me that day I stopped by, we really don't know why little ones do what little ones do and each and every one of us is different. There is no blueprint, nor doctor's word, because we ultimately don't know; there is only our truth and our choice on how we hold our own experience. If you want to update, I'd love to hear from you. I'll try to do the same. With love and support.

Just wanted to update - finally had a 2nd ultrasound yesterday (over the belly) and baby is measuring 14w5d with a FHR of 140!!! OB said she saw "perfect growth". Relief followed by tears and happiness. OB (a different one from my first appt at 7w1d) was great and said she thinks the first OB made a mistake. We have been waiting it out for 7 weeks, partially too afraid to go through another appt. and a good part letting nature take her course. Dr.'s and technology do make mistakes - my story is an example of that. BTW, new OB said she'd be having "a word" with the other OB about my first appt. Feels good to have someone on my team. Wishing all who come through this thread the very best. Baby blessings!

i wanted to share my story with you! i had my appointment yesterday and doctor said my baby`s size was only for about 7 weeks( actually i should of been 8w6d that day) and baby1s heartbeat was only 40 beats per minute.... i hit me bad... i couldn't stop crying... good thing my husband was with me! it is my first pregnancy, and we wanted baby for a long time. doctor said baby has about 50% of chance to make it.... he made me another appointment for ultrasound in three weeks. and that is when i will be able to find out if baby is still alive.... i pray that everything going well! i hope this little angel comes to this world!! after reading your story i feel more positive! i have hope!!!!!!!!!! this miracle happened to you! and i will be waiting for one now!...

Hey guys I'm glad I found this site! I'm on my second round of IFV, the last time it worked for only about a week and my beta to drop. This time transfer happened on feb 19th and my beta was sky high and rising fast. At 5 weeks 5 days I began having lots of bleeding and cramping thought I was losing my little one again, went in for an ultrasound the next morning and found out I was pregnant with twins. However baby b looked a little weird, but ultrasounds that early are hard to go by. So I had to wait until week 7 for another ultrasound. So I went yesterday at week 7 and found out they both have heartbeats. Baby a is at 102bpm. Baby b is only at 70bpm. My doc isn't saying much other then we need to wait and see. I can't wait and see anymore I feel like I'm going crazy. Maybe it's in my head but I'm feeling a little crampy tonight and I hope I'm just constipated or something! I go back in for another u/s next Thursday week 8. I guess we'll see but I'm not sure if I can take much more disappointment we have been trying for over 5 years now. Anyone out there have any advise? Maybe some positive outcomes? I know my little guys are fighters and I'm praying to God that ill meet them one day! Is 70 really a bad sign? Plus I have a clot behind baby b from when I blead two weeks ago, not sure if that will hurt anything. My doc only gives me statistics like 40% of ivf patients form blood clots in the uterus and 80% of those have successful pregnancies. I just want this to work out. Ill keep you posted next week. Good lunch to all the future moms out there.

Hey guys I'm glad I found this site! I'm on my second round of IFV, the last time it worked for only about a week and my beta to drop. This time transfer happened on feb 19th and my beta was sky high and rising fast. At 5 weeks 5 days I began having lots of bleeding and cramping thought I was losing my little one again, went in for an ultrasound the next morning and found out I was pregnant with twins. However baby b looked a little weird, but ultrasounds that early are hard to go by. So I had to wait until week 7 for another ultrasound. So I went yesterday at week 7 and found out they both have heartbeats. Baby a is at 102bpm. Baby b is only at 70bpm. My doc isn't saying much other then we need to wait and see. I can't wait and see anymore I feel like I'm going crazy. Maybe it's in my head but I'm feeling a little crampy tonight and I hope I'm just constipated or something! I go back in for another u/s next Thursday week 8. I guess we'll see but I'm not sure if I can take much more disappointment we have been trying for over 5 years now. Anyone out there have any advise? Maybe some positive outcomes? I know my little guys are fighters and I'm praying to God that ill meet them one day! Is 70 really a bad sign? Plus I have a clot behind baby b from when I blead two weeks ago, not sure if that will hurt anything. My doc only gives me statistics like 40% of ivf patients form blood clots in the uterus and 80% of those have successful pregnancies. I just want this to work out. Ill keep you posted next week. Good lunch to all the future moms out there.

Hi All, I'm on my 2nd round of IVF. First round was about 3 years ago, and I now have a healthy 2yo boy. That pregnancy was not without it's own set of complications. I had a subchorionic hemorrhage and went on extended bed rest twice. I am now 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. I thought things would go better this time. My numbers/levels were better and no bleeding. Last week the dr searched for a heart beat. At 7 weeks and 5 days, the heart rate was only 73 when it should have been at least 120. In addition, the baby measured 6 weeks and 4 days. I had to go back to the doctor 4 days later. The heart rate jumped to 117, just 3 points shy of what the dr hoped for, but more than 20 points lower than the range for 8 weeks which is 149-172 I believe. I go back again Thursday. The doctor keeps telling us to wait and see, hope for the best, pray and keep faith. I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is our last shot at pregnancy via IVF. My husband switched jobs, therefore our insurance no longer covers it, and we can't afford it otherwise. So the thoughts that are running through my head are (1) will this baby make it to term, and (2)if so, will it have some sort of chromosomal abnormality? I'm a lawyer, so I do my research, and I know the prognosis is not great. I knew going into this that IVF + ICSI has a slightly increased chance of chromosomal abnormalities. Now on top of that worry, I'm anxious as to whether I'll make it out of the 1st trimester at all. Last year, my sister miscarried when she was 20 weeks. We are now both pregnant at the same time. She is only a month ahead. I want to be excited, but I feel like I'm waiting on the other shoe to drop. Any stories of healthy babies after slow heart rate between 6-9 weeks and IVF + ICSI?

Hi All, I'm on my 2nd round of IVF. First round was about 3 years ago, and I now have a healthy 2yo boy. That pregnancy was not without it's own set of complications. I had a subchorionic hemorrhage and went on extended bed rest twice. I am now 8 weeks pregnant with my 2nd child. I thought things would go better this time. My numbers/levels were better and no bleeding. Last week the dr searched for a heart beat. At 7 weeks and 5 days, the heart rate was only 73 when it should have been at least 120. In addition, the baby measured 6 weeks and 4 days. I had to go back to the doctor 4 days later. The heart rate jumped to 117, just 3 points shy of what the dr hoped for, but more than 20 points lower than the range for 8 weeks which is 149-172 I believe. I go back again Thursday. The doctor keeps telling us to wait and see, hope for the best, pray and keep faith. I feel like I'm waiting for the other shoe to drop. This is our last shot at pregnancy via IVF. My husband switched jobs, therefore our insurance no longer covers it, and we can't afford it otherwise. So the thoughts that are running through my head are (1) will this baby make it to term, and (2)if so, will it have some sort of chromosomal abnormality? I'm a lawyer, so I do my research, and I know the prognosis is not great. I knew going into this that IVF + ICSI has a slightly increased chance of chromosomal abnormalities. Now on top of that worry, I'm anxious as to whether I'll make it out of the 1st trimester at all. Last year, my sister miscarried when she was 20 weeks. We are now both pregnant at the same time. She is only a month ahead. I want to be excited, but I feel like I'm waiting on the other shoe to drop. Any stories of healthy babies after slow heart rate between 6-9 weeks and IVF + ICSI?

*Correction: At 7 weeks 5 days the heart rate was 93.