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Girls - think good thoughts for us today - our financial situation is dire and my DH is going to meet with a company that we are hoping will make an offer. He did get an offer from one other place, but it's 2nd shift, 4 days a week, 12 hours a day. It is great money, but we'll never see him! He would be gone from 3pm to 4am, and I don't think I can handle that. I'd be home alone essentially with 3 kids constantly, during the day he would have to sleep obviously. But he's been looking for something for a couple years, on & off while he's been self-employed, but no one has seemed willing to take a chance on him except for huge steps down in pay/responsibility compared to what he does now. It's been sooooo frustrating for him, but his business was always providing us with good income, so there was no rush as far as that was concerned. But in the last 6 months, it's like the rug has been pulled out from under us with different things happening all at once & his clients moving their business to oversea suppliers that he just can't compete with price-wise. I've been a SAHM for the last 6 years, and if I wasn't so far along with this pregnancy, I'd get a job right now, but who would hire me? We are hoping this comes thru for us, and just go from there. I just am in shock a little, at how our lives have changed so quickly. We've been fortunate, but foolish, we really should have better savings at this point in our lives. Two good things : we have no mortgage except a small home equity loan, and we have almost no credit card debt. We have our health, we have our kids, we have options, so it's not so bad, I guess. I'm concerned because we have another child on the way, and everything is so expensive! Food, gas, clothing, heating oil. It's crazy! Okay, I have to stop now before I depress everybody, I don't really want to go down this road anymore, right? LOL. Well, I am growing out of my current maternity wardrobe. I swear, my b___t is now growing at the same rate as my belly! WTH! I do NOT remember this with my two previous pregnancies. I was a basketball, and I put a layer or two on everywhere else, but mostly it was just my belly. This time I'm gaining everywhere!! I don't even want to know how much weight I've gained, I go to the doc on Monday, I bet I'm gonna get it about my weight. If she says anything I'm going to tell her to shut up or I'll sit on her! LOL

LOL, Amy! you go girl! I can see you saying it "do you want me to sit on you???" lol.....hey, don't worry about venting about these things! It's totally normal and I worry about money all the time. I wake up most mornings and lie there before I get up thinking about it. Ugh. I know I shouldn't worry because we've always had what we need, but it's scary too. I do a lot of "what if" scenarios too which is pointless. We are in a comfortable place, but unlike you guys Jessie and I DO have a lot of debt. At one point I was out of it, but especially lately I've been using credit cards a lot because I have so much to pay for with dr's appts. and my blood thinner shots (those alone run $200 per month). It's taking a toll now and I actually think that when the baby comes we will have more money than we do now. It seems impossible to actually get ahead though. Always sc___pin by....lol ;)

AMY - girl you just let it all out - we are kinda struggling right now - we have a huge mortgage and a large car payment - we actually got rid of one car payment thankfully but we had to cough up 1150.00 to finish paying it off ouch! seems like we are always sc___ping by and my husband doesn't get that one of his whole check per month pay the mortgage....I am going to cut all of my long pants into capri pants my mom and bf can help me sew them - that's until my a__s gets to big....LOL but so far so good. man it feels good to let some of the money stress out.....oh and to top it off I totally forgot to pay for my truck tags and instead of it being about 275 if I had paid on time I had to pay 400 when I got to the DMV - double ouch so that's 1600 in unexpected expenses! I just wish that some magic check would appear - I am patiently waiting for that tax rebate check that will help - we were doing so well at first and then business got way slow so we are waitiing to be able to buy discount properties from the bank then we can get ahead again but it tough since my husband works commission and if there's no work there is no pay....so thankfully there has been work but just trying to play catch up - seems like we are worse off now that I am working then when I just stayed home which makes no sense??? oh well it will all work out and whatever will be will be no sense stressing about it.....easier said that done but at least I stopped losing sleep over it and me and my bf have a garage sale planned and I have a lot of stuff I can easily part with that has been in boxes since we 've moved if I haven't wondered where it is in a year I can get rid of it lol- we all just need to keep our eye on the prize - everything else will work out!

Hey guys - I haven't had a chance to catch up since this morning - will soon, but I wanted to tell you guys I have some bad news. I found out at the dr's today that I have pre-eclampsia. My BP was sky high and had protein in my urine, so they sent me right over to the hospital to be monitored for a few hours and have more blood drawn. They are going to monitor me VERY closely, and decide where to go from here. The only way to "get rid" of it is to deliver. Doc says they will try to keep the baby inside as long as possible, but if I continue to get worse they will deliver early. I am very upset and confused - I cried all the way back to work today. No bed rest for right now - but will know more on Monday- just no exerting myself till then. Will check back in a little while.

hi everyone.... boy im tired today. i have a test today in cla__s and im just not focused at all. tomorrow i have finals and im really not ready for them. i seem to be more tired now then i was at the begining of the pregnancy. its nice out alteast. but with the sun comes my dh never being home. which is hard on me. cuz i dont have people close to me to just come keep me company. but i need to get over it cuz it only gets worst from here. lol

Okay, finally read up on the day's events. Amy, I hope you know that you guys are so not alone when it comes to the money issues. It's d__n hard to even just make it nowadays, the prices of EVERYTHING are crazy high. Even if your husband does have to take that job, it won't be forever. I know it will be hard, but everything has it's rhyme & reasons - hopefully something will come along that's even better. You know we are all here for you (hugs). I hope everyone else is doing well, I'm getting ready to go home for the day. Please keep me & the baby in your prayers - Thanks :0)

HEATHER - I will keep you and baby in my prayers - just keep telling yourself that this is not acceptable (mind over matter) drink fluids cut your salt -ALL salt do everything you can to get this minimalized and I will believe that you can keep this baby in for at least 10-12 more weeks......It will be ok girl - don't worry --- we are here for you - HUGS!!!!! to you and Tom

Oh, Heather sweetie! I'm so sorry about this....ugh I was hoping it was not pre-eclampsia, but honestly when you started having the bloating issues it is the first thing that popped in my head ( I think I even posted that it better not be pre-e!!!) I have friends who've had it and it is more common than most of us think from what I hear. It is not good, but do like the dr. says and like Tina said (drink lots of water! cut down on the sugar and salt too) and some of those things may help. Also a friend who had this bought a $50 blood pressure monitor to have at home so she could keep on top of her bp and call her doc if it got out of control. I think her monitoring at home helped her delivery her healthy baby boy almost at term. We all were worried he'd come too early and he did not. We're all behind you here so just let it out when you start worrying. That's my job, remember!!!??? lol...

Tina, thanks sweetie. I don't think I have ever been this scared in my whole life. I can't do anything to make my body stop fighting this & I can't make my baby grow any faster. I'm actually at a loss for words right now. It does make me feel good to know that I have you all to talk to and understand.

Heather - don't worry that's the best thing you can do......everything will be fine .....we are ALL here for you!

Thanks for all your good thoughts guys. I appreciate your support sooooo much, you wouldn't believe it! I know it's tough for everybody, not just us, in many different ways, I guess I just wanted to share what was going on here. BTW, I just heard from DH, he's on his way home from the 2nd interview, and they did not offer him the position. They offered him an hourly position, but it is way down the totem pole for him as far as experience & money. Basically he'd be wasting his skills in a postion that wouldn't earn him 1/2 what we need to survive. I think he's going to take the 2nd shift position. It'll be ok, like you guys said, it won't be forever, I'm sure he'll be able to move to another position, and we've discussed it a lot and I think we'll be okay. I'm just nervous about all of that time alone with 2 rambunctious boys and a newborn, and all their activities and the house, etc. Not to mention, how much I'll miss him!!!!!!!!!! We spend a lot of time together, since he works from home (the barn on our property was converted to his workshop years ago) and he's been here for everything. He goes to every doctor/school appt, takes the boys with him for rides on deliveries and things, stays with the kids so I can go out on a Tuesday morning at 11am for a haircut. We have lunch together, we get a chance to just talk to each other a lot. He's a great hands-on dad & husband, and we've been so lucky to have both of us here so much while our boys have grown up from babies to little men. I guess I just wanted to say that, you know, say out loud how wonderful I think he is and how important to our family his being here so much has been. I better make sure to tell him, too, right!! Sorry, I know I'm getting deep and all, I'm a little emotional.

heather i am sorry to hear the bad news. but everything will be ok. you dont have that much longer to go and we are all going to believe and have faith that no matter what it is going to work out. it is scary hearing something like that. but like everyone said drink lots of water and cut back the salt. elevate yourself as much as possible and try not to stress!!!!

HEATHER - I'm going to say a prayer for you. I'm sooo sorry about your pre-eclampsia diagnosis. I want to tell you - DO EXACTLY what your doctor tells you. The thing with high blood pressure is you don't really feel sick, so you think you can do more than you really should because you feel so normal, but you ARE sick, so take care of yourself! TINA makes a great point, mind over matter. Keep yourself calm, practice some rudimentary meditation stuff, whatever works for you - it makes such a difference. Call in the big guns now in terms of help from family, friends, hired help, whatever you have to do to keep that baby in you! I think there is a correlation like this - every day that baby is inside is 4 less days in the NICU. I was on bedrest at home for 9 weeks with Noah, my younger son, and then another 3 weeks in the hospital after my water broke, and I followed every instruction & then some, it is so worth it. I didn't feel sick, or in pain, or really have any physical symptoms at all, but it was necessary that I lay in bed like any extremely ill person would, to give my little one the chance to grow. If you do go on bedrest, and you want to talk to me (or anyone else on this forum, there are so many who have been thru it!) I'm here for you. IT is boring as hell, and frustrating and all ther other things you've heard about it, but if you have a good mindset about it, it helps a million percent. I am sending good thought fairies & love your way darling. Do some research if it makes you feel better, but don't freak yourself out and only concentrate on the worst case scenarios!!! (YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO DO THAT!) Xoxox

AMY- don't worry - just be positive - like you said it won't be forever! It's funny all those things you said I would love to have - my husband and I started our business so that eventually someday we can work together - oversee construction on properties - be in the office together - lunch together - plus to be around for all of our kids would be great! My mom wasn't able to stay at home with us until I was a freshmen in high school and I loved it - one day - sigh - plus you know the saying (which goes for you too HEATHER) we are never given more than we can handle - I used to laugh at that but now after all i have been through I get it.....and it's true - I think you and your man have an awesome relationship - my husband and I end up talking late into the night some nights just laying in bed carressing each other holding each other - that's why we don't have a TV in our room - we need those nights even though we might be beat the next day those are precious moments.....I have been hearing that bob marley song alot - which is weird - "don't worry about a thing....cuz every little thing is gonna be alright!" AMEN brother! preach it! LOL - yes yes yes tell him how much you'll miss him -maybe this job will be his foot in the door and then they will realize they are wasting him in that lower position and promote him quickly and give him better hours! you know it's tough we have friends on the brink of foreclosure and I thank God it's not that bad for us! Hang in there - it's going to be ok hugs!

Heather i read what you wrote and im sorry i will be praying for you too. I am a big believer and just take it easy and things will turn out. I dont know much about these things.. what is pre-eclampsia? All i can say is to take one day at a time and do the best you can.

Oh girls, I must be having a hormone attack or something, but I just am about to bawl reading your posts! I'm very lucky to have found such a wonderful group of women to be sharing this same experience with me!!! TINA what you said to Amy was beautiful and I couldn't have said anything better myself. Amy hang in there and it sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your husband! Things will work out for all of us. I know each of us has our own individual struggles, but it's all gonna be fine :) HEATHER, another tip I remember from my friend with the high bp and stuff was when it would get up there she'd like on her left side. Her doctor said that helps the circulation and stuff so try to lie on your left side as much as possible! Just please take it easy!!! I have oficially taken my worrying job BACK! you can't have it ;P