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how many of you will be staying home with your children instead of having others raise them for you? it is best for mother to be home. some are not able to do whats best. we can all judge. it's better to be supportive.

I know a couple women who smoked while pregnant. 2 of these women lost their babies to SIDS. The other one had a 5 pound baby at full term. I know an addiction can be hard. I hope you can stop smoking for your baby's sake......Jenna, I am sorry to hear about your lost of one twin. Gook luck ladies!!!

Why oh why can't we just get on here and talk about our problems and try and get support without someone or someone's calling us names and telling us how awful we are? We are all woman, woman with a beautiful gift from God inside of us. I thank you for your prayers about quitting smoking, I need all I can get at this point. Just know that I am trying to quit. It has been a long difficult journey and those that have never smoked you do not know what that journey is like. To give up something you have been dependant on for such a long time is very very difficult. Add in the change in your life due to this pg and the changes in your body and emotions it is down right the most challenging thing I have ever done. It is a chemical dependency, a choice we made a long long long time ago way before we were pg, so please do not think that we like the idea of smoking. Please put yourself in our shoes and see how it is. I do not want to judge anyone as I do not want to be judged. The Lord is the only one that may judge me. Bless all of you that are trying, I am very proud of you, and for the others that want to put us down, I will pray for you also that you not be judged they way you judge us. That is all I have to say.

I am 19wks and i only smoked about a 1/2 pack a day until I found out I was prego now i hardly smoke maybe 1to2 aday and if my hubby found out he would kick my b___t!! no pun intended ha ha lol but I only do it at work when I am stressed the most and I just bum a couple here and there so at home on weekends I smoke nothing at all so thats good I guess first trimester I really cut way back mostly did not do it so good luck to all ( :

To Whoa:....my point is that we can never have a thread like this because people who don't smoke come on here to crucify us. This thread started back in August where i posted a couple of responses and then just got tired of it. I'm truly not upset and i can breathe just fine thank you; I seriously do not have the energy to get upset over a pregnancy forum, but it is a pet peeve of mine when the religious fanatics come out spouting their words of wisdom. I honestly don't answer threads i have nothing in common w/ and i just wish others would do the same. We are here (the ones who are "Smoking & Pregnant") because we need to support of others in our like situations. One final thing, it is not necessary for you to quote my entire response in parenthesis, i am completely aware of what i have written, you seem vaguely like some other poster named "sad" who loves to do that. I'm not trying to start a war here, but it seems as though you want to, and i doubt very seriously that you are Smoking & Pregnant, but you have come on this thread like the other to bash us and offer no support whatsoever....I have no interest in fighting w/ you, I just wish for once we could have this forum for those of us who need it without it turning ugly as it always does. Take care..

I understand those threads are your pet peeve, but what about the people who post them then see your pet peeve. Where is the support in you posting them as your pet peeve. Also your pet peeve is totally off topic for this thread, so what was the point. I like to read all of the threads, whether I can relate to the question or not. Each of them offers an opportunity to learn something. Maybe "sad" and I both notice how hypocrital you are, you want support for your issue but have no tolerance for those who ask questions that seem to irritate you. You don't have too either, but you don't have to go around making new threads or going on tangents about them either. How can you ask for and expect support when you seem to have issue offering it to others because you don't like the question?

Whoa: i said i do not respond to threads i have nothing in common w/. Alot of threads i do have things in common w/ and have responded with support for whatever that person is going thru, whether it be having an amnio, or having a child at an older age, (i'm 38). I try to be really supportive to people, but i don't go on threads i have nothing to do w/ and spout, "Jesus pray for these souls". Out of all the threads you will come across, this one always seems to be the hot b___ton and we can never really keep it going w/out numerous cat fights and name calling and people praying for our sinning souls, that is really my only point. I am not a hypocrite, i want people to offer me suggestions and support to quit smoking like i offer suggestions to others here on different threads. Maybe i did get a little heated under the collar, but we don't need people like Bernedette coming here, it does not help at all. That's it for me here, this is why i stopped coming here before....I wish everyone the best, and the best babies....

I came here to get support and suggestions from other women who are in my situation. No one will know what i'm going through unless they have gone through it themselves, or have overcome it. I do need help, and i'm asking for it, not to be told i am a horrible person, a horrible mother, my child will be deformed or defected, and especially not to be told someone else's "god" will hate me. The fact is, this is not my first child, i did smoke with my first, although much less, and he is healthy, i am a GREAT stay-at-home mom, and telling me horrible negative things, is not helping, it's only making me angry, and frankly, that's just not what i need right now, nor does any pregnant women for any reason.. so just BACK OFF!

Ok jen, because obviously my post went over your head. You do have a valid argument, but the point is she doing basically what you did to the people who post your pet peeve's. It seems you are too busy trying to point fingers.

I believe it was sarcasm directed at those who are saying these pregnant smokers are evil.

I agree that those of us who come here need support without all the negative comments. I also smoke and I'm 17 weeks. I feel horrible about it and I am trying to quit. Maybe someone (not me b/c I'm really bad on the computer) could start a yahoo group. If someone knows how to start a group like that I would be more than happy to join, and I'm sure some of you other ladies would join too. Any takers?

I bought the Allan Carr's stop smoking book, and it is a very good book. It might work for someone out there. Some ladies had to read it a couple of times to let his method sink in but it seems to be the best thing out there. I read it once but i'm still trying to quit. I'm going to read it again this weekend. Good luck!

Tanyav, thank you for the advice. I will go out and look for the book this weekend. I have really been slipping on the quitting lately. Last time I was pg I went to 5 a day no problem right a way. I tried this time but it seems to be harder and harder and the more stressed I get about it the more I want to give and and smoke. I am not doing well at all, up to 15 or more a day again. I feel so ashamed and so guilty and weak. I will give it my all again tomorrow as today I have already had 5. But I will try harder today just tomorrow I won't have any in the am and see how it goes from there. God Bless you all.

An article in the Discover magazine relates Asthma on grandchildren to a smoking grandma (during pregnancy). It seems that the smoke changes the female eggs of the daughter in the womb. So your daughter is much more likely to have kids with asthma. Sometimes the effects of smoking take a long time to be seen, like in this case. :)

how on earth could they prove that a grandmother smoking during pregnancy caused asthma in a grandchild?? For starters, things like car exaust can cause asthma, sometimes it's also just genetic, and many illnesses caused by smoking that some of these 'ladies' have attributed to smoking during pregnancy is caused by smoking in the home (like SIDS)

Sids is related to smoking inside your house..that's been a real concern of mine, i do smoke, not to terribly much, and the sids thing realls has me scared....i do not smoke in my house, never have even before getting pg. always smoke outside on back deck.....thanks PR.....