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It is true woemn's emotions are crazy when we are pregnant. I am 25 weeks pregnant and feel very self concious about my own looks and such. Just try and continue to be patient with her and reinforce the fact you think you is beautiful and even more beautiful now that she is carrying your baby. She probably just feels very uncomfortable with herself and thinks you would want to look else where even though you know you don't.

Please don't let her hormones ruin your relationship. I understand it must make you feel bad when she does those things...but it's not personal. I have been able to not work while since I was 12 weeks pregnant. My bf (we are both 21) pays all the bills, has purchased all the baby's things, pays for my needs (makeup, shampoo/conditioner, etc), he does this by working hard about 60 hours a week. Yet, sometimes when he comes home and tells me a story about his day, if it involves a girl I'll flip out and say that he's cheating/ likes being at work better than being with me, etc. I don't mean any of it and have enough brains to apologize (even though it's often hours/days later). I would sit her down and tell her how much you care about her and this baby, why you love her, what she's been doing and why it hurts/bothers you (not accusingly), etc. It's hard being pregnant and watching your body go to c___p, while your sweetie is looking as good as ever, especially when you are not married. Don't take it personally and grit you teeth and bear with it. When the baby arrives it will all be worth it and her hormone levels will balance back out. Congrats and good luck!

Oh yeah you sound like my boyfriend im 4 months pregnant and truely us woman don't know were being so brutal towards you and if she thinks your chaeting shes just insecure she needs to put a little more trust in you when were prego we get lazy start and activity with her like lamaz or exercising with her just a little at a time each day she wants you to care

yes i definitly agree with all of these ladies dont let her insecurities while she is pregnant push you away she has to go through nine months her body changing her moods changing drs appt being sick the least you can do is stick around and deal with her changes with her. i remember when i was pregnant (7 days ago hehe) you need to tell her constantly how beautiful she is and how much you love her and how you wouldnt want anyone else carrying your child you need to constantly tell her that though. i also remember the jealousy part and i am married i remember my husband went inside the store to get beer and the lady was talking to him and i seen her flirting with him and he got back into the car and i was soooooooo mad at him lol and he didnt even do anything i seen him smile and walk away from her and im like thinking to myself the entire time why am i yelling at him and it was just because of my own insecurities but like someone else had said i did apologize later and it was like days or hours later... but he puts up with me for some reason...

Raiderbssrcty - us women often say things we dont 'really' mean, even if we are not pregnant, but esp when pregnant! She is going through a lot right now, changes/pain/confusion/hormones etc. Let her know how beautiful she is, comfort her, make her feel special, spend that extra bit of 'special bonding' time with her, even if its just kind words and hugging her or kissing her with your hands on her stomach. It will let her know you care and love her still more than ever. All she needs right now is some comforting and to know that thru thick and thin.. and yes pregnant and fat, that you will still be there and be faithful and nothing bad will happen. :) xo

I have to laugh at these posts...not at your poor guys but at us silly women! I was the exact same way up until about 25 weeks. I was convinced my husband was cheating on me with one of the laziest, most childish women I have ever know (he is the most faithful guy in the whole world)someone he wouldn't even give the time of day, i was totally unreasonable and b___hy about everything from cleaning the house, to eating out when I knew d*mn well we couldn't afford it, to him being to close to me in bed at night! And I was sure he would never love me again after I got my first stretch mark! All this right before he was deployed and we should have been spending as much time together as possible. Frankly I'm surprised he didn't dump me! Sad as it sounds, those hormones reek havoc with our heads...I knew I was being a total b___h and I just couldn't stop it. Just keep being supportive even though I'm sure it is really hard at times. She'll come around eventually and things will smooth out for you both again.

Hey I hate to say it but I acted the same way my first trimester....it should pa__s...at least the crying over nothing parts. Now I will say having a big ol preg. belly does make you wonder if your spouse still looks at li flat tummies that you no longer have so it makes us a lil more apprehensive about that sort of thing... My husband is in the army reserves. And as you should know there are not very many hott army chicks so all my fears were mostly preposterious but I did announce them anyways...but like I said it really does get better the farther along you are. You should really try to suggesting she eat a lil better for the baby and her body preg. is hard on your body and you can not take back the calories put on in the early months bc ALOT more are to come the last trimester!

dig your feet in and bear it out mate. It may be hard and painful at times but so is giving birth.

I am no expert but from what you write it appears to me that your other 1/2 might be experiencing a sort of 'Pre-Partum Mood Swings' If this is so, you should 'baton-down-hatches', and prepare to weather the storm. Please understand what a ma__sive change her body is going through, not only physically but emotionally too.You need to understand this, and understand you can't fix it (it is built in to most men that if they see a problem it most be fixed, this on you can't so don't try ) Cut her some slack (difficult I know ,but try) Please understand that much of her behavior is BEYOND HER CONTROL. Remember also, a lot of expecting mums experience this. You are both having a baby so consider your 'labor pain' is her 'Pre-Partum Mood Swings' ;-) But in the mean time you may wish to visit the "Fatherhood" section of this web site and click "Moms and Mood swings" and perhaps ask Santa for a copy of "Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads " by Gary Greenberg, Jeannie Hayden for Christmas All the very best and Merry Christmas Keith dad of 2 Adelaide South Australia

I'd like to add another point of view to this topic. Of course all pregnant women are hormonal and can have some pretty severe mood swings. But that doesnt make us stupid. I am 35 weeks along and my mood can change in a second, but I am smart enough to understand that my husband shouldn't be the one on the firing range. If you women are insecure about your relationship, its not brought on from hormones, they are real insecurities just felt stronger by your emotions. And have some sensitivity, you can't just shrug off accusations of cheating, not being faithful, to me thats like a b__w to the face. I know that I can trust my husband 100%, and I dont get angry or jealous if he's friends with a girl. Basically what I'm getting at is that if you feel insecure about your partner, then you need to sit down and talk it over reasonably, and have a little faith. You'll be alot happier in your pregnancy and its great to know that your partner is just as excited as you are, and always by your side.

I know my reply is a bit late but wanted to also share my experience. I am now 17 weeks pregnant and everything is fantastic but from week 1 to week 14 I was a hormonal wreck, crying as we do, wanting to start an argument, being lazy and everything my partner said or done was wrong. I felt sorry for my partner as I knew he was also going thru a difficult time. As soon as I hit the 15 week for some reason what he said to me made a lot of sense and it was only then that I could control my hormones. I listened to what my partner said and that was to calm down in a nice way of course and to think things thru before wrecking havoc. You know for pregnant woman this is not always easy but I saw his side of things as well. Also I knew that the baby can start to hear sounds and for me staying positive will filter thru to the baby. My partner and I have a strong relationship but even this came into question because of my daily tantrums. My partner understands that it was my hormones. At times I need to be rea__sured that he loves me and thinks I am attractive. I get flowers every 2 weeks and plenty of hugs and kisses. Just bare with her and tell her that u support her 100%.