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i haven't got that far ahead yet. I'm still hoping she doesn't die. I can't get over the fear that she's going to get sick because of something I did. When she's in her ba__sinet I'm constantly poking her. I try to not bother her and just look for breathing but that's never good enough; I need to see her flail her little arms so there's no chance that I imagined her moving. Don't get me started on SIDS... I'm happiest when she's sleeping in my arms but even then I'm afraid because I've heard of babies dying of SIDS in the arms of their parent! I'm so gonna get an ulcer...

You cannot think this way or else you'll go crazy! Just live life and enjoy it. If you continue to be such worry warts then you're poor kids will have to live with an overptretrctive sufficating mother! Of course every mother worries about their kid,i do too, but you just got have a little faith and live each day as it comes.

In my defence, I am a worry wart but I'm not overprotective or suffocating. I know my worrying isn't reasonable so I keep it to myself. I'm hoping I'll "grow" out of this but I doubt it; I can remember worrying when I was in grade school. It didn't stop me from having fun and being a regular kid though.

I'm with Mira...You have to live life. No one knows what tomorrow brings which is why you have to make the best of today!

I have intrusive thoughts also. Most of mine are too horrid to discuss. They make me sick and I look at my baby with tears in my eyes. One of them is the thought that I may drop him on a hardwood floor. Isn't that awful? I cringe when I think of him getting hurt. I have heard that this is a sign of PP depression, and there is medication for intrusive thoughts. They are subsiding each day, but still here. I try to avoid the thoughts as much as possible.

I think that it is pretty normal to have bad thoughts about something happening to your new baby. I think that it is the mind absorobing the fact that you are taking care and responsible for another human life. I have talked to a number of my friends and they have had the same types of thoughts, as well as myself. I think that it is natural and will subside quite quickly. If they got so bad and were actually consuming your thoughts constantly, then I would suggest talking to your doctor about it.

I think these thoughts stem from the fact that the baby is completely defenseless and dependent upon us, if anything should happen, you would never forgive yourself. I recall these thoughts being very prevalent when i had my 1st baby, and found myself dwelling on them. It eventually pa__sed. I have only had them a few times with every consecutive baby, now with my 5th....i hardly worry at all. The only thing i do have a problem with is other people, i know that seems silly, but i don't trust anyone except me or my husband. I would never leave her with anyone even for 5 minutes!!!

For the first 4 months or so, I could not even think about SIDS without almost crying, i was obsessed with it.. and then i just sat back and thought of how my thinking about bad things all the time was only making it harder for me to enjoy her... so i as the above have said, take it one day at a time.. ...and to add to "dropping the baby on the hardwood floor"... i had a dream one night that I was carrying her down the stairs and i fell right on her... i was freaked for days, and now i just make sure that i am always concious of what is infront of me lol

Lisa: I too am the same way. I dont like leaving my adughter with anyon ebut my hubby since you can never really know someone. We have left her with his mother but I wont leave her with my moher unless there is another person there to watch. Im not sure what were going to do when we go on our honeymoon. I wonder if were going to take her with us since his mother is too old to care for a baby for very long periods of a time. An hour a day is ok but you know what I mean?

Thanks guys with all ur responses,,, I dont think about this every single day, i use to a lot in the beginning. Its just sometimes ill think stupid things like what if her finger gets slammed when i close the car door u know? Shes my first baby and i just love her soo much i could not bare the thought of anything happening to her. And also i just dont trust no one else with her, me and my bf have made our work schedules around our baby. Like i work mornings and he takes care of my her and then he works evenings and then i take care of her. But she s 5 mo. now and just yesterday for the very first time me and my bf went clubing. I waited til she fell asleep at my house, (i had my mom come over to our house) and then left. The whole time i was thinking about her, i was just like what if something happens to her and here we are partying but everthing was kool, by the end of the night i realized i shouldnt worry soo much.