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Well how did it go? I would like to know ur outcome.

It takes 10 working days for the results so we should know by the end of the month!! Thanks everyone for your support!!

Just thought id let you konw, the test came back positive... just a start of all new troubles now.

I dont know what to do, my girlfriend is absolutely shattered, shes supported me so much through everything, but shes heatbroken that my first child is with this horrible person. (we miscarried at easter) i dont want to put her thru the rest of the trouble that im gonna have mow with the courts etc. (had letter requesting child support before the test results even came back) n shes already refused to let me see the child so more court. what should i do? i dont think i can do this let alone drag the love of my life along thru it!

I'm sorry to hear of all this trouble you have had to go through with this woman. The only thing you can do is be a mature and sophisticated man. Whatever this other woman does, no matter how low and immature, rise above it. Don't let her bring you down to her level. Your child deserves to have one parent who has their act together. As for your girlfriend, if she loves you she should be willing to deal with this..good or bad. If you guys stay together and eventually get married, there will be hard times (probably harder than this) and the both of you are just going to have to deal with it. That's life. Use this opportunity to grow together as a couple! Good Luck!

Thankyou for ur kind words and ur advice. She does love me and is willing to go through with this, but i can see that it is hurting her, and i dont want her to hurt.

Jeff, have you considered trying for custody? From all that you've said, it sounds like you'd be a much better parent for this child.

Sweetheart, you need a dna test pronto, I really do not think this poor child is yours, and another thing if you find out it is not yours, you should sue her for punitive damages and emotional destraught, you have a case there if the child is not yours.By the way tell your girl to hang in there, this chick sounds like she's out to lunchPERMANANTLY!!!!

Oh, and by the way if the chils is indeed your, I would give serious thought to getting full custody of this child, your ex is really unstable, and if the child was indeed yours she would have gone for a dna test just to rub it in your face, she even tried to lie about the date of birth, sounds fishy to me.Whether the child is yours or not that chick took a permanent vacation to mars and never came back.

we have had the test, and the baby is mine. its breaking my girlfriends heart (we miscarried weeks before my ex told us she was pregnant) i dont what to do or how to go about it to not hurt my girl, and theres going to be a few court cases coming up. shes alreay going for full custody herself, (her mother is helping her with the baby) and shes already going for child support. she was before the test was even done. shes a nightmare that i cant wake up from.thankyou everyone for keeping up to date with my story and all ur kind words

My girl knows, she was the first person i told. We tell each other everything. and i can see it hurt her. I already have decided that i will have make payments directly to the Child support agency and they will pay her. i know what she is like and she is sneeky. i dont have a REAL record. but i have the fact that she tried getting an AVO against me there. Everyone agrees that her and her mother did that for the reason of custody when the baby was born. cos they both knnow that i didnt do it, and even tho the court struck the comments she made against me from it, the judge put one on me, and on her, til the baby was born cos she was not stable.

if the judge knows she is not stable, i cannot see her getting full custody and her mother has no rights, i do not know what state you are in, but the only thing she can do is go for supervised visitation, my brother had to do it for a while, but she is going to play sick games with you, and everytime you get your child take pictures of the child and date it, my brother almost got pinned for child abuse, they took his kid away for 2 months for an investigation, and if it wasn't for a picture he had taken he would have lost all his rights, it is a sorry way to live but you have to think smart, especially with a b___h like that, my brother's ex tried to mark his daughter and then told his 5 year old daughter that if she did not say it was daddy then her mommy wouild give her away! I am just giving you an example of what an unstable b___h is capable of, you really have to be on your toes and cover your a__s, the mother has more pull.

my mother is a paralegal for a family law attorney, so she has to do all the research for him, and she sees plenty like you, If I told you the stuff my brother's ex pulled with him, you would be shocked that she still has her kid, my niece is 8 and her mother told her that my brother left her while she was pregnant, which is a lie, My brother told her that he would take care of his daughter, but the relationship was over.If this woman plays nice, do not trust her, be friendly, but do not trust her.

I am from australia, and i think alot of other aussie dads will agree with me that the court systems over here are not fair.

Well, just thought i would update you all, i havnt even had time to get my head around everything or even try to work out what is going to happen and i received a letter from the girls solicitor again today asking me to sign an order saying that the baby resides with the mother and that the mother makes all the day to day and long term decisions for the baby on her own. and that their be no contact. i dont really know what to do because i dont agree with that. it is my daughter too, and i should be allowed to see her, and make some of the decisions about schooling etc... but i will have to go to court and i can not afford to. and i got legal advice at a free legal advice session and they said the fact that their was the request for a restraining order and that one was actually put in place is a bad smear on my record and that she would more then likely get her wish of me having no contact with the baby!!!! if i sign it means no court, no arguements but then it means i dont know my own daughter... does anybody out there know what options i have? especially anyone from australia. i dont want to go back to that legal advice place again cos they seemed to be on her side. and i cant afford a lawyer

Dont sign the papers. If you want a part in your childs life, you have a right to be there, whether she wants that or not. Make her take you to court, then stand up for your relationship with your daughter. I wish you the best.