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First, I am so sorry for your loss. It must be a horrible feeling to be torn between staying with your daughter or going to the funeral. Personally I've known a woman who walked around at 4 cm for two weeks (fully effaced and almost engaged) so who knows? What did your daughter's doctor say? How is she feeling? Is this her first baby? First babies "tend" to be longer labors for many women. She still has a few weeks she could go, but that's a tough decision you have to make. If it were me, I would probably go. I hope you're able to come to a decision that you're at peace with and again I'm so sorry for the loss of your brother.

Hmm, that's a tough one. Honestly she is at the point where anything could happen now. I had my baby at 37 weeks and when the dr had checked just a couple of days before i was neither dialated or effaced, so i was pretty surprised. At the same time though she could still be a few weeks away from delivering. There is just no way to know for sure. I am very sorry for your loss. I suggest maybe you talk to your daughter about it and see how you both feel about the situation, Were you planning on being in the delivery room for the birth? For me i couldn't have my mom there for the birth b/c i had to have a c-section (breech baby) but it meant so much to me that she was there before i went in. I was so scared and having her there really calmed me down, but i would have understood if she had a sibling's funeral to attend, and i would have survived b/c i had my husband there. Good luck.

grannyzahn im s sorry for ur loss..as the mommies said above, its a difficult situation and not easy to decide since u have 1 close ppl involved.. personally, i was 1 cm dilated and my dr expected that i would give birth in a week time.. she was right.. i gave birth exactly 1 week later.. i was 38 weeks by then.. and i know a relative who was 3 cm dilated and her doctor told her she would be in anytime.. she stayed for a week or 10 days.. we both were carrying our first babies... so ur daughter could stay for days or weeks still pregnant..if i were in ur place, i would explain to ur daughter the situation and im sure she will understand.. for sure she's going through many things now,,her hormones and overwhelming feeling about getting into labor. her husband/partner would stil be there for her so it should be alright and u wil be back soon to see her and her baby.. and who knows? she could be still pregnant when ur back.